My husband threw money at me to resign and have a second child. I filed for divorce and took my daughter away

Every girl of marriageable age longs for a handsome husband, living a happy little life of three in a family, not worrying about food and clothing, not worrying about money. In my search, I met my current husband. After dating for a while, I felt that they were suitable for each other. Their family is in business and the conditions are very good. I am an only child in our family, and my parents also have their own business. The two families are in charge of each other. Soon, we determined the marriage date and got married and had children.

When we got married, their family bought the house and paid the full amount at once. Our family delivered a car. Shortly after marriage, my mother-in-law wanted me to have a child. She helped us take care of it and lighten our burden. This sounds very comfortable. Although my family is not short of money, I do not want to stay at home. I believe that regardless of family circumstances, women should have a career of their own, which is a guarantee for their future path. So I found a relaxed job, and soon, I got pregnant as I wished.

During pregnancy, I didn't have much reaction and occasionally experienced nausea, but it wasn't serious. My family worried about me and asked me to resign and go home, but I refused their kindness. My home is not far from the company, so I choose to walk to work every day for half an hour, which can also exercise my body. When I was five months pregnant, my mother-in-law suddenly said that she wanted to see the child in my belly, see if it was a boy or a girl, and then be ready to prepare her child's clothes.

"I thought she meant well, so I foolishly followed her for an examination, but the hospital didn't do it, saying that she was worried about patriarchal behavior, and her mother-in-law was so angry that she quarreled with the doctor.". I feel very uncomfortable in my heart. I feel that she is so sensitive about a small matter. With a pregnancy in October, I am finally about to be liberated.

The day before the birth, my mother-in-law looked absent-minded, and my father-in-law smoked one cigarette after another. I thought I was worried about my body. Who knows, at the moment the child was born, they took a look and looked very serious. With a few simple words of comfort, they drove home. Later, I learned that they hated me for having a daughter. At this time, I realized that a few months ago, my mother-in-law was going to check on men and women, just to identify gender. Thinking of their son preference, I couldn't help but shed tears.

The child belongs to me and my husband, and I think we can cherish it. "Who knows, my husband also looked unhappy when he came over and said to himself, 'Why is she a daughter?' I quarreled with him and angrily stopped talking to him.". No matter whether they are happy or not, the full moon wine still needs to be handled, but it is much worse than I expected. My parents came to attend and said unhappily, "Your mother-in-law is too stingy, and the family is not without money, making it so shabby.". I am ashamed to tell my parents about my grievances, so I can only hold back my tears.

During the confinement period, my mother-in-law's attitude towards me was extremely poor. Every time she arrived at a restaurant, she casually gave me some bone soup, chicken soup, and other nutritional supplements. The taste was particularly unpleasant, and I suspected that she was deliberately venting her emotions on me. After the child is three months old, I will return to work at the company and hand over the child to my mother-in-law. She immediately became angry and said, "I raised it myself and took it with me. Is there a shortage of money for you at home? I quit my job and come back to take care of the child.".

Her words stabbed me like needles, and I cried with my husband in grievance. Not only did he not stand aside from me, he also handed me a card saying there were 300000 yuan in it, asking me to quit my job and have another son for their family. Are they using me as a tool for giving birth? "I don't agree to having a second child so soon, and the whole family is fighting me.". "I was very angry, and in a fit of anger, I proposed a divorce and took my daughter back to her family.".

Instead of apologizing, they spoke ill of me to their relatives, saying that I was a workaholic and unwilling to add grandchildren to their family and wanted a divorce. How can I stand up for such a mother-in-law's family? What should I do?

reply:

Nowadays, society emphasizes equality between men and women, but there will still be a group of people who have a preference for men over women. This is a social phenomenon. Your two families are closely related, and your relationship with your husband has also changed since the birth of the child. From this, it can be seen that your husband listens to his parents very much, and if you don't follow their instructions, you will get into a lot of trouble. However, if you do, as you said, you are at their home, just like a tool for giving birth to children. If the second child is a daughter again, your future life will be difficult.

In the current situation, it is necessary to correct their traditional thinking and tell them about the dangers of valuing sons over daughters. If they continue to act willfully, then you can only leave this feudal family, which is not suitable for you. A family with divided hearts can never be happy.