Post Date December, 02 2023
My husband and I have been married for 7 years and have a 4-year-old daughter who is very cute and beautiful. My husband has always been very responsible and loves me. From my college romance to now, I can say he has never argued with me and takes care of me everywhere. During holidays, he also accompanies me and takes my daughter out to play.
But I never expected my husband to have another side, which I completely don't know.
At the beginning of this year, by chance, I found out that my husband and a woman were actually coming out of a hotel. My heart suddenly froze and I almost fainted at the time. On second thought, how could my husband be so good? He probably misread. I casually asked when I came home at night, but I didn't expect my husband to admit it. He said it was indeed him, and he did have sex with that woman. I asked him why, and he said it was necessary for the job.
When I was pregnant with my daughter 4 years ago, my husband was a technician in the factory, but his salary was not high. After having my daughter, my family had a lot of expenses, and I also had a mortgage. So my husband changed his job to do customer development or something, and he never told me about it. He said he couldn't remember how many women he had slept with over the years, all of which were procurement, quality inspection, and other things he had business with. He said he couldn't go back any longer, his daughter needed money, and the mortgage needed money. The commission for negotiating a business deal was very substantial. He said he had been keeping it from me all along, and he didn't feel good about it. He said he loved me, but he stopped working if he wanted to pay off his mortgage and started a couple's shop with me to live a good life together. I asked him if you would still be like this after that, and he said that depending on the situation, if necessary, he would still be like this, as long as the contract can be negotiated. My heart has completely cooled down, I don't know what to do.
This has been going on for several months, and I have become a lot haggard. He told me that he doesn't want to see me like this. Today, he gave me the divorce agreement he wrote, and he didn't want any money or house, leaving it all for me and the children. I don't know why this happened?
Reply: Hello, thank you for your trust.
No woman wants her husband to be shared with others unless she doesn't love him. Do you know that after his husband has sex with other women, he not only does not show remorse, but also swears that he will continue to do so if necessary in the future. I don't know if I should praise him for being an honest child when he does this, even though it is truly from his heart. If he could deny your question, even a white lie, you would feel better in your heart.
I believe what your husband said. He does love you, otherwise he wouldn't do it so well, making you feel from the bottom of your heart that he is responsible and loving enough for you and your child, wouldn't keep it from you like that, and wouldn't divorce so grandly.
Your husband is taking a path of commercial bribery. He didn't send a beautiful woman, it was himself.
Times have changed, not only do men like to play with women, but women are also playing with male chauvinism. When sex becomes a commercial weight, it is indeed difficult for him to choose when facing signatures.
He is in pain because he loves you. He is helpless because not every woman who goes to bed is a beautiful woman.
He may have been so kind to you just to atone for it. Why does he admit to being so frank? Because he really can't bear to deceive you anymore. Hiding secrets is a very painful thing, not to mention this secret is a ticking time bomb scenario for marriage.
A woman who had a similar experience once confided to me that she couldn't do without her husband. She didn't want a divorce, and her solution was for her husband to silently prepare condoms for him before he went out. She said that as long as he didn't bring his illness back, it would be good to go home.
This is also an attitude, and I have no right to criticize.
I still said that there are gains and losses, and marriage is the same.
Allowing my husband to continue working in this job has the advantage of earning money, but the disadvantage is that he will be dragged to bed by other women, whether he is willing or unwilling, often walking by the river, where his shoes are not wet. Letting your husband stop doing this job has the disadvantage of earning less money, but the advantage is that the likelihood of him being shared is reduced.
Have a good conversation with your husband, and make a choice between him and you.
Don't be busy signing for now, leave or not, calm down for a while before speaking.
(Intern Editor: Lai Jiaxing)
