Sexual Health
My husband relied on my mother's family for financial support, but when he developed, he repaid me with cheating
I am thirty-two years old this year, and my husband is one year older than me. We have been married for five years and have a three year old baby. My husband is introverted and doesn't like to talk. I am an impatient woman who pursues high efficiency in doing things and has poor emotional management skills. My husband tolerated my small temper and has been considerate towards me since marriage. I am the only child in my family. My father runs a factory and my family conditions are limited. Although I cannot be considered a wealthy woman, I still live a carefree life. I have never experienced hardship since I was young, and compared to my husband, I am happy.
My husband's family is from a rural area. With a passionate heart, he came to work in a first tier city after graduation. With the expectations of his parents and his own aspirations, he took two years to establish himself in the company. We are from the same company, and I am pleased with his ambition in my eyes. Despite the reserved attitude of the girls, I decisively adopted a reverse pursuit mode. At first, he didn't accept me and felt like he couldn't stand it. My relentless pursuit left him helpless. After six months of pursuit, we have established a romantic relationship. After marriage, my husband lived with me in the house my parents bought, and no longer lived in the kind of landless rental life.
When I got married, I followed him home for a few days. I was not used to the rural lifestyle at all. It wasn't that I despised their family, but that I couldn't really integrate into it. On the first day of returning home, the room was filled with his relatives and friends, so lively that he looked at me like a treasure, making me feel very embarrassed. His three aunts and six grandmothers, holding my hand, spoke to me with a local accent, but I couldn't understand a word. Fortunately, my husband translated it to me, otherwise it would be really awkward.
At the table, everyone was very enthusiastic, one after another helping me with food. I had a cleanliness habit, and I couldn't eat the chopsticks they used to help me with food. In order to save my image and my husband's face, I endured that meal. My husband seems to have noticed that after only staying for a few days, he and I returned to the city to live. I think he has been holding onto this matter. After getting married, my parents came to our house every once in a while to care about our lives, but my husband always remained silent. When there was no one around, he suggested bringing his parents over to play for a few days. I just kindly reminded him, 'I'm afraid they won't be able to get used to it,' but I don't know what he misunderstood. Afterwards, he never mentioned his parents coming to our house again.
In the fourth year of my marriage, my husband wanted to open a company to discuss with me. Without a word, I ran to my parents to ask for money. My husband was so grateful that he almost shed tears. The whole family doesn't talk to each other. I comforted him and said, as long as you can earn interest, this money will only be invested by me. Due to the availability of funds, he has gained profits. After more than a year of operation, the company has seen benefits, and his social interactions are also increasing. Last February, I noticed that he was coming home later and later. I called him and he said he was having a dinner and it was inconvenient to answer the phone. I had something to say when I got back. But as soon as I played, I stayed up late at night and returned home full of alcohol.
His work is like a fish in water, but our marriage is full of holes. A month ago, I discovered that he had an affair, whether it was a girl from his hometown or a subordinate. On the day of Qixi, I accompanied me to spend Valentine's Day, went to travel with a third party, and went out for a few days. The reason given to me was that the company would go to other places to investigate a project. If it weren't for that intellectually disabled woman showing off her love in her social circle and being seen and sent to me by her colleagues, I don't know how long I would have been hidden from their infidelity. Teacher, why did my husband treat me like this? I gave him everything, but he betrayed me in the most glorious moment. Where did his conscience go? What should I do?
Reply from Weiqing Consultant:
Hello. A man's self-esteem is innate. During his most difficult times, it was always you who helped him, but now his performance is truly disappointing. From his perspective, it would have been a proud thing to take you home, but your various dislikes made him very embarrassed, even though you didn't think that way. Returning to the city to live, but still having to look at your parents' faces and actions, it can be said that he does not relax at all. Seeing your parents, he will inevitably associate them with his own, unable to be filial in front of them, and his heart is also uncomfortable.
He accumulated resentment in his heart, and when he was able to support himself independently for a long time, he indulged himself and committed adultery. The girl he found from his hometown indicates that he has a sense of homesickness. Of course, you need to clarify right and wrong with him. At present, what you need to do is awaken his conscience and make him aware of how despicable his current behavior is. Regardless of whether he feels aggrieved by marriage or not, as a husband and father, he cannot ignore his own identity and do such unseen things. If he persists, you can protect your rights through legal means. Good luck.