Post Date December, 03 2023
Since I got married, I have been depressed. I hate my husband's family. His family is not very good to me, and what they do is even more unbearable to me, especially when my husband and his family talk on the phone forever. Back in his hometown, my mother-in-law pinched my husband's face. My husband pinched my mother-in-law's face and said that she was fat and thin. But I often can only stand and walk in his house, and can only sit on a broken stool. Everything depends on the face of his family. His family didn't give us a penny when we bought a house. When we got married, we bought a lot of furniture and put it in the rural home.
Every time I quarrel, my husband always yells at me, saying that he regrets marrying me and wants to divorce me. Now I don't talk to my husband very much. I sometimes want to take advantage of the fact that there are no children, the house is not decorated, and there is no burden on each other. Is this feasible?
Ms. Zhao:
You and your husband's family don't like each other, which is obviously not a unilateral reason. His family is not polite enough to you and let you sit on a broken stool, but have you ever thought about why you are so unpopular?
My husband has a good relationship with his family. There are many things to say when calling. Do you think men can only talk to you after they get married? You and his family are his closest people and should enjoy the same treatment.
He is very close to his mother, which can only explain one problem: their mother and son are very friendly, like friends. Why are you jealous of your mother-in-law? Unless your husband has obvious Oedipus plot and snubs you.
You can't fit into their family. Did they resist you without reason, or did you actually resist them first? You think it's their fault. It's very subjective.
Your husband will marry you. Obviously, he thinks you are a man worthy of marriage. But after marriage, he found that you were "hostile" to his family, and would inevitably feel disappointed. Since your husband attaches so much importance to family, if you want to tie his heart and make him look at you in a new light, you can only try to accept his family and use your own actions to make them look better at you. You should turn passivity into initiative and use your sincerity to influence them. If you do try your best and still have no effect, then plan again.
Finally, you should communicate with your husband more and solve problems in time. As a bridge between you and his family, your husband must also know that it is his responsibility to resolve the conflicts between you. If left unchecked, he did not fulfill his duty.
