Post Date December, 03 2023
My husband and I got married for 10 years, and our relationship started during college. After graduation, we worked for two years and naturally got married. My love with my husband is mostly my initiative. He is introverted, kind, and well educated. Before getting married, his feelings for me remained indifferent. Most likely, I took the initiative to call. I seem to be the planner of a relationship.
After getting married, he wanted to take the postgraduate entrance exam, so he applied for a dormitory to live in. Seeing how stressed he was every day (his parents insisted that he go to graduate school), we agreed to separate. I didn't have much contact with him in order to make him review at school with peace of mind.
After the postgraduate entrance examination, I went to him with great joy, but as a result, I received a divorce letter. My husband left without saying goodbye, and my mother-in-law didn't know where he had gone. He left the house clean and didn't notice anyone outside his husband, and I don't know what happened. Has he never loved me?
Ms. Zhao:
Regarding your question, the analysis is as follows:
1. Introverted people always keep their words hidden in their hearts. If they can't bear you anymore, they will choose to leave instead of communicating with you. Therefore, when facing such a man, you should pay more attention to the details and make him feel that he is in control of the marriage rather than you. Changing your roles may be better.
2. Whether your husband loves you can be seen from many details in life, such as whether he will wait for you to leave work, whether he will reply to your phone calls promptly after missing them, and whether he will worry about your daily life and physical discomfort. From your consultation, it can be seen that your husband may not have someone outside, but he just feels that his marriage with you is not happy, not what he wants.
3. If you don't want a divorce, you can try waiting for him to change his mind. Continue living your life, take care of your mother-in-law, and communicate with your husband after he gradually calms down and communicates with his family. I also found my shortcomings from this incident and corrected them. Perhaps the way you express your love is not very acceptable to your husband. Try changing the way you express it.
