Post Date December, 03 2023
Q:
My husband is not handsome, but he is witty and talkative, and is very feminine. Before I met, I had several girlfriends and had many friends of the opposite sex. When he confessed to me, I was also very entangled. I also asked myself, can I accept him, can I tie his heart? But later on, I found out that as I socialized, I was already attracted to him and couldn't leave him alone.
Later on, he became involved. Although he still had exchanges with those female friends, there was no ambiguity, except for a dry sister he recognized, and her husband loved her very much. I thought it was nothing at first, but later I realized that their relationship was far from that simple.
My husband often calls her and sends WeChat messages, but the content is not ambiguous. It's just some things to pay attention to when going out, but I'm not at ease. Later, when I contacted her, she clearly told me that my husband only treated her as a younger sister and told me not to be too suspicious, warning me not to be too suspicious, because my husband hates women most. At that time, I thought she might be like a little sister and not be a threat to me. But gradually I realized that my husband's love for her far exceeded the love a brother should have for his sister. And my husband has a strong sense of her, a strong sense that she belongs to me, which he doesn't have when facing me.
Although I haven't noticed that he and she have intimate behavior, I really don't know when his relationship with this "sister" can end. Is their relationship normal? My husband loves me very much, I know that, and I can be sure of it, but I don't want to share this love with any other woman. I wonder how I should face it?
Answer:
"Now that you are nervous about your husband's relationship with that woman, you can't find your place, but you also said that your husband also loves you. What does he love you for?"? What attracts your husband? No matter how complex the relationship between your husband and her is, you need to figure out how to be yourself at any time! Pulling oneself out of a state of self control is a matter of attacking the heart. And being yourself is the best way to keep him by your side.
However, this does not mean that you cannot live without positions and needs. Tell him very clearly about your needs, your concerns, and you can also tell him that you will wait. Maintaining your family is also about maintaining your self-esteem, and dignity is important in sexual relationships. If you lose your dignity, no one will respect you anymore. And dignity often manifests itself in your needs, your persistence, your ability, and your ability to respect others.
