My husband is having an affair with a female netizen. He thinks it's funny, and I can't stand it.

My husband and I have been married for eight years and have a seven year old son. Last year, my husband bought a PULS, and since then, I have found him flirting on WeChat and QQ. Inadvertently, an online name called "Lonely, Empty, Cold Mushroom Cool" often appears on my husband's mobile phone. I read their chat content, ambiguous words, I feel a bit disgusted. In the content, the other party mentioned that they were lonely. I have an unexpected premonition that if this matter is not properly handled, our marriage will be in great trouble.

I keep telling my husband about some online female cheaters who specifically seduce men and then cheat them on their money. "My husband doesn't understand these words, and he always feels very far away from himself. He listens to them in his left ear and throws them in his right ear. He continues to engage in the ambiguity of WeChat.". As a wife, I really care about him being so intimate with other women, whether it's verbal or physical, I don't allow him here. I directly told him that I had read his WeChat account and saw that I shouldn't have seen the chat record. The reason for this is also the fear that he will get deeper and hurt our feelings.

My husband answered me easily, just for fun, not as dirty as I thought. "The other party is not in our city, they won't meet.". "I believe in him. Over the years, we have experienced great storms, and I don't think he will abandon our family for the sake of a strange woman.". A month later, I found that they were in constant contact and even upgraded to playing video chat. "In a fit of anger, I deleted the woman. She was not willing, and she had been desperately adding to my husband. In order to save trouble, I directly pulled the black.".

I thought my aggressive behavior would scare my husband, but when I found out that he had changed his account, they continued to keep in touch. "On impulse, I took his mobile phone and uninstalled his chat software. He felt innocent and thought he had chatted for a while. I was so impulsive.". A week ago, he was on a business trip and left without saying hello. I still learned from my child that he was on a business trip. After he came back, I deliberately snubbed him in a fit of pique, didn't wash his clothes, and only cooked for me and the children. From a psychological perspective, I strongly rejected him. I lost confidence in my feelings. What should I do?

Reply from the maintenance consultant:

There are many temptations in this world, and they are now upgraded to online temptations. The vagueness of online chatting, invisible and intangible, is only a psychological and spiritual stimulus, and in the long run, it may lead to feelings. From your narration, I can see that you have been preventing, but the effect has not been satisfactory. Not only did it not solve the problem, it also prompted a cold war between you. Your solution is a bit extreme. Being angry about a virtual online woman, if it continues, will push your husband out.

Personally, I suggest that you first have a serious chat with him, tell him what you think, that is, your bottom line, and see how his attitude is. "Usually, you should communicate more, promote your feelings, and enhance your temperament. There should be more trust and mutual respect between husband and wife, and life should be easier. Please remember not to be angry.". I wish you happiness.