My husband is extremely absurd, even claiming that a third party can see my shadow back then

Before encountering him, I had a glass heart filled with longing for work, love, and emotions. As I grew older, my heart grew lonelier. Carrying the dream in my heart, I am foolishly waiting for my own happiness. We met at a party where we had a great time eating, singing, and playing. I even forgot my recognized status as a lady. I drank heavily, ate meat heavily, and sang loudly. I was completely drunk, not because of happiness, but because of inner emptiness. When I saw others paired up, there was always a hint of jealousy in my heart.

That night, I got drunk and was carried back to my residence by a boy in a daze. I vomited and went crazy all night, and he accompanied me without any complaints. The first time we met, I felt so familiar, as if it was fate. Of course, the disheveled and unkempt face I woke up after drinking made me feel a bit embarrassed. He didn't give up. In order to make breakfast, he hurried to work without leaving a name, only saying that his friend entrusted him to take care of me. Afterwards, I asked a friend for his phone number, and we kept in touch. I learned that he was single, 26 years old, one year older than me. I was very pleased that he was single, so I had the opportunity to get close to him.

We, like all people in love, went from being unfamiliar at the beginning to talking about everything afterwards. After our relationship was established, we got married and had children. Ten years have passed in a blink of an eye. In these years of marriage, with the birth of children, the complexity of household chores, and the increase in age, my patience has been worn out, and our arguments have become a common occurrence. In my opinion, this kind of simple argument has become the killer weapon of our marriage. Our love has been broken down, and he has cheated and fallen in love with a third party. He absurdly claims that he can find my shadow in the third party.

He made me laugh and cry for this reason. I was alone in front of him, and he ran to outsiders to find my shadow. I'll let him know my bottom line. If he continues to socialize with a third party, I'll take the child and disappear, making him unable to find us. He looked very nervous, perhaps my words stimulated him. During that time, he did become quite honest.

But last month he went on a business trip, and our relationship broke down again. Due to his previous infidelity, I no longer trust him. I called their company to investigate his position, and their colleagues said that they did not arrange for my husband to go on a business trip. He is taking leave and has something to do. After hanging up the phone, I dialed my husband's phone. His voice on the other end of the phone was cold and he briefly chatted, saying that he would be back the next day. In fact, in the past few days since he left, I have considered it and wanted to repair our relationship again. Since he found my shadow on a third party, it indicates that he cares about me. I should be gentle with him appropriately and not be suspicious. The next day he returned as scheduled, and that night he had no reaction to my embrace, even showing extreme indifference, as if he disliked me very much.

Later on, I realized that his so-called business trip was going to open a house with a third party... Our family didn't want things to get big, and we guarded our marriage for more than ten years, so we really didn't want to break up. Is there any hope of salvaging a marriage like this?

Reply from Weiqing Consultant:

From your description, it can be seen that from your love to marriage, you have gone through a long test, and it can be seen that you love your husband very much. You used to love each other very much, but those were all in the past. Now that you have children, you are confused by a lot of trivial things in life, and have no time to take care of your marriage. My husband misses your shadow back then, and coupled with the temptation outside, he is easily trapped by a third party.

We are all ordinary people, pursuing spiritual things. Over time, we must return to reality. The freshness period cannot always guarantee quality and quantity, and there will always be a day when it expires. To save your marriage, you need to consider real-life issues, not rely on feelings to suspect, and have solid evidence to make him speechless in front of evidence. Women must maintain a calm mind when encountering issues such as extramarital affairs. Since he is looking for your shadow, it indicates that he is still pretending to be you in the depths of his heart. Find an opportunity to bring him back to the sweetness of love, communicate more, and enhance his temperament. When things have reached this point, it is necessary to find a solution.