My husband and I have been married for three years, and during these three years, I have been living in a muddle and have not been happy at all. When we got married, they compensated for the demolition of their house. The area was not large, less than ninety, and it was enough for the two of us to live. After marriage, we live a stable life. He has a stable job and a monthly salary of 5000 yuan. I am a thousand higher than him. Apart from usual expenses, these salaries can be said to barely cover expenses.
In the first year after marriage, I was able to accept his salary. Without children, there was little pressure, and I didn't have to pay off my mortgage. I didn't expect much from him. I thought to myself that as long as he works hard, he can't keep doing this. However, I was wrong. He is just a man without ideas and ambition. Every morning, nine to five, after work, he either sits on the sofa watching TV, or plays games in the study. Occasionally, he also helps me with cooking, but that is a rare thing.
My friends around me are all working hard, buying a big house and driving a luxury car. When our family got married, we delivered a car from my mother's family, with two people driving it in rotation. Everyone has a sense of vanity, and the people around them are stronger than themselves, which makes me feel ashamed. Especially when friends have dinner together, they are wearing designer bags and high-end clothing. Looking at me, I finally bought a designer bag from the miscellaneous clothes I found on Taobao, which I saved from my teeth.
What angers me the most is that when I complained to him about the unpleasant life, he comforted me and said, 'Being hungry is a good thing, not caring about my feelings.'. After three years of marriage, we had countless arguments. I complained that he didn't have the ambition of a man, and he cursed me as a vain money digger. I couldn't bear it anymore and proposed a divorce. He signed in anger and divided his property, and we parted ways from then on.
After the divorce, I never heard from him again. I worked hard and slowly repaired the pain of the divorce, spending my free time at home with my parents. When his shadow was about to disappear from my mind, he suddenly appeared. What surprised me was that he was driving a luxury car at my doorstep. He developed and worked on projects with friends after his divorce, earning a bucket of money. He couldn't wait to see me. I thought he was here to repair our relationship, but who knows, he was here to show off and humiliate me.
He pointed to his car and then to me, saying, "This is your short-sighted attitude as a woman, focusing only on the present. Now, are you so regretful? Today, I want you to say something. If you are willing to come with me, we will immediately remarry. If you don't want to, you will wait to continue regretting." My heart sank after hearing this, and he had the capital to show off. It's like a new person, it's too scary. I didn't answer him, he sneered a few times and drove away, letting me slowly think for myself.
His current situation is indeed what I wanted before, but how do I feel that even if we remarry, I cannot have happiness? He gave me a feeling of psychological distortion, how should I make a decision?
Reply from Weiqing Consultant:
When a man's self-esteem is stimulated, he may unleash incredible potential. In the current situation, your ex husband has unleashed his potential after your divorce, but at the same time, his heart is also changing, becoming unfamiliar and unbearable. This kind of person has a strong sense of revenge. Since he speaks such big words in front of you, in the future, if you remarry, he will definitely not give you any face. What you want is a healthy and positive husband, not such a scheming man. The matter of remarriage should not be underestimated, as it is related to your lifelong happiness. You must think twice before taking action.