My husband is cheating and looking for a mistress, but my daughter won't let me get divorced or I'll crash a car

This is the third time I have encountered a mistress in my marriage. Divorce, I can't bear to have children; Without a divorce, I can't get over it and can't let it go. Over and over again, the deceit and harm have made me lose trust in him.

If we talk about divorce, my eldest daughter is already eleven years old, knows everything, and has a big temper. She said that if we get divorced, she will crash a car. I know she can do it, and she is very worried and afraid! The youngest daughter is just eleven months old, so innocent and lovely, and even more reluctant to part. And parents, I'm afraid they can't bear it! If I don't leave, I am already scarred and my heart is pounding with pain every day. I really can't let it go, I can't let it go! I feel like I'm really going crazy, what should I do? Please help me!

reply:

Hello, in the face of infidelity and harm in marriage, some women choose to endure, some choose revenge, and some choose to leave. How to make the final decision depends on their own bottom line and specific situation. Your situation is very complicated and difficult now, and I also feel a headache. So, you can only choose the lesser of the two harms, depending on which option is still within your tolerance. For the sake of protecting more people from harm, it is recommended that you sacrifice yourself first. For the safety of your daughter's life, for the sake of your elderly parents, and for the sake of your 11 month old baby, this is indeed not a good time to choose a divorce. Since you have already been hurt by your husband, you can't be hurt by him again.

The important thing now is for you to be optimistic and adjust your mindset. If you can see through such things, it's not a big deal. You don't need to put more effort and effort into that irresponsible man. You should take care of yourself more for the sake of your children, make yourself feel in crisis, and learn to be strong. From now on, learn how to grow and not give up on yourself too early. Whether it's making money or running a family, you need to hone your skills. When you really choose to leave, you can also have a foothold in society and have enough ability to take care of your children and family. At the same time, it is important to reflect on your marriage and why you have come this far. Whether this man is too bad or you have flaws, you need to understand. Otherwise, you will still face the same dilemma in the future. In short, divert your attention and avoid punishing or tormenting yourself with others' mistakes. If you really drive yourself crazy, who will take care of your children and parents?