My husband has been working outside for a long time. I can't stop because of my loneliness and infidelity

My husband and I have been married for 11 years. During this period, we have been bumping and quarreling, which are nothing. Later, he met a woman five or six years older than himself on the Internet, and slowly they had a relationship. One day, my husband confessed to me on his own initiative. At that time, my heart hurt more than he pinched me with a knife!

At that time, I also called the woman. She was afraid to answer. I sent her a message again, but she said she would leave my husband. They were just ordinary friends. That woman never expected my husband to confess! At that time, I believed her and thought she would leave my husband! However, she secretly sent messages and called my husband again and again, and they were still in contact!

Later, I sent a message to the woman. I said, you are bastards and big liars! But the woman told my husband that I scolded her. My husband told me when he came back, don't provoke her if you have nothing to do. He didn't want to provoke her! After that, slowly, my husband told me that he would not be like before, would live with me well, would never leave me, and I would always be his original match.

But last night, my husband told me that the woman was very poor. He just wanted to take care of her. If she needed any help, he would help her. My husband said that if I feel uncomfortable, I can ask for a divorce and he will leave the house clean! Why, for such a woman, you can do nothing? He always said that I was his wife, which could not be changed by anyone, but what he did did did not take me as his wife at all!

This woman always said to my husband that you are better off, but she sent a message to my husband that I have nothing to look for men online, and called me a bitch! Later, I told my husband that you know who I am better than anyone else. My thoughts are conservative and my first love is my husband. I think that after getting married, the body only belongs to my husband, and others can't infringe upon it! I said that the woman completely slandered me and slandered me. I seldom chat online at ordinary times. There are family members and classmates in it, and nothing else. Why does that woman feel that other women are the same as her when she is free to chat online and find men?

Now what my husband means is that he just takes that woman as his eldest sister and wants to take care of her. A woman is very poor. If she gets married, he will take care of her if she doesn't get married in this life. That woman is more than 40 years old, my husband and I are more than 30 years old, and my son is 10 years old. What should I do?

reply:

1. From your husband's performance, he may really fall in love with this big woman. This woman is older than you in terms of age, but why can she win your husband's favor is because she can pretend to be poor. Men often treat women with pity for the weak. Women's weakness can stimulate men's desire for protection. Therefore, the more you scold that woman, the more you show your competitiveness. Your roar and ferocity can only make your husband stand by that woman more, and produce some kind of boredom for you.

2. A wise woman must not play with her husband's infidelity. A simple and violent confrontation such as crying, making trouble and hanging three can only lead to more rebellious men. You must know how to pretend to be innocent, pathetic, injured, and aggrieved. At this time, how weak you become, how weak you are, and how helpless you are, which is more conducive to the return of your husband's conscience. Otherwise, if you are making trouble without bottom line, don't think about the real cause and intention of your husband's cheating, and don't reflect on your own shortcomings, you can only accelerate the breakdown of marriage and lead to the complete end of mutual relationship.

3. Have a peaceful talk with your husband and find out your husband's real intention. If he really doesn't care about you and the family and puts his mind on that woman, then you should also prepare for the worst. Divorce is not the best choice, but it is not the last resort, but it is also the price that must be fulfilled to save some stubborn men and some marriages. Sometimes, only through a crisp divorce can the other party wake up again and understand how important it was to have. This is to not hit the south wall and not turn back. Some detours do not go, and people do not know what is the right way. For this reason, in order to better stimulate your husband and make him wake up in time, you should choose to help him, let him go to clean house, and promise him to see how he reacts. Although doing so risks great risks, there is no way to do it. Even if you end up throwing eggs in the air, I think you won't lose anything. It's enough to protect your legitimate rights and interests. Otherwise, what should I do, unless I watch my man give warmth to other women with my eyes closed.