Post Date April, 15 2023
I have always known that my husband has a lover. I found out two years ago that he has found a lover outside. The lover is young and beautiful, has a high degree, and has very good family conditions. These years have been very helpful to my husband's career. My psychology gradually became calm from the initial pain. I took my son to school at home, and to be honest, he never missed a penny of our living expenses. During the Chinese New Year, he basically stayed at home with us. The outside environment is not very good now, and there are so many incidents of cheating, cheating, and one night stands that I have relaxed my mind and lived a good life. As long as he can be responsible for his family, it's enough. If he messes around outside and doesn't care about his family, the two of them will definitely not let him go. Although my mood has calmed down, every time I think of this matter, I still feel a bit sad, just like many famous men who have an unmatched wife who only knows how to be a nanny at home. Thinking of these things makes me feel a sense of desolation. Is this my life? Do I really have to accept this kind of life for a lifetime?
The day before yesterday, my husband came home and brought me a gift. This is the only gift he has given me in the past five years. It is a very fashionable women's bag, and I really like it in terms of quality, color, and style. At that time, I didn't know how happy I was. I felt like my hard times were coming to an end, and he might have gradually realized his conscience. Thinking of this, I couldn't sleep all night.
But a few days ago, I was playing with my cousin and I told her that her cousin's husband is amazing and the photos he took were really good. I asked her to go online and take a look at my husband's space to see. So that day, I entered his QQ space with my cousin. Originally, I don't use the internet at all. However, when we opened his space, both of us were stunned. Inside were all photos of the mistress, which were too coquettish to catch the eye, as well as photos of them traveling together outside. In one of the articles, it was also mentioned about the bag. It turned out that he was supposed to give it to Xiao San when he bought it. It was the two of them who had an argument, and his husband specifically asked someone to buy it from abroad to apologize to her. But the third person thought the style was too old and refused to accept it, so he later gave it to me. I don't know what to do, and I'm not as upset as I was then. If I really started arguing, would I be very passive? On the one hand, I don't have any financial resources myself. After being married for so many years at home, I have long been disconnected from society. On the other hand, my son is going to take the high school entrance examination next year. If I make a scene like this, it will definitely have a significant impact on the child, so I still want to endure it. Maybe he will come back one day when he is tired of playing, right?
Ms. Chen:
The reason why your marriage is in the current situation is actually the most crucial issue lies in your own thoughts. You think everything is so reasonable, and even put yourself and those unknown wives in the family behind the famous men in the same category,
As humans, what we fear the most is not external changes, but ourselves unconsciously being changed by others, silently losing ourselves completely. Therefore, I still hope that you can choose to wake up, and when you wake up, you have to fight. There are many ways to fight, and it is also very skilled. When a man is still taking home as a root, with his mother and children at home, the initiative of many things will still be at home.
Women are already equal to men. If you want men to look up to you and place you in an equal position with them, you must first put yourself in an equal position. What you should strive for must be fought for, and there is no ambiguity!
