Post Date April, 15 2023
My worries:
"I know I was wrong. I shouldn't have had sex with a married man when I was lonely, but I wouldn't have been locked up in my husband's iron underpants. This shameful life has lasted for more than half a year, leaving me mentally drained every day..."
My husband and I were college classmates. At that time, he had a tall figure and liked sports, becoming the target of many girls. However, because I looked good, I had a high self-esteem. Sometime, my husband took me seriously, and he pursued me fiercely. Because my best roommate had been secretly in love with him for many days, I didn't want to destroy the relationship between me and my roommate, so until I graduated from college, I didn't even agree to his request for love.
After graduating from college, we both returned to our hometown and found relatively stable jobs. After working for six months, my husband came to the city where I worked to find me. It was moved and liked by me, so despite my parents' objections, I resigned my job and married a distant country.
The joy of being newly married filled the void of my absence from work, and the joy of pregnancy made me forget the loneliness of being alone. It wasn't until my child entered kindergarten that I found myself out of touch with society. In addition to my husband's successful career and busy socializing over the years, more often than not, I felt like I was living alone.
"The lonely marriage life has made me very uneasy. I have thought about looking for a job several times, but I haven't made it. On the one hand, my husband is very opposed to me working outside, on the other hand, because I am worried about not finding a decent job, so I have to give up.". For this reason, in addition to picking up and sending children to and from school and conscientiously completing household chores on weekdays, I often stay at home and watch TV in boredom. Perhaps I am bored with this kind of life. Therefore, I am obsessed with chatting online.
I can't remember exactly how many netizens Zhong is, but his humor is addictive to me. I wait for him to go online at a specific time almost every day. Sometimes he is too busy to take care of me, and when I can't see him, I feel like crazy. So I know that I have fallen in love with this strange man in the city I haven't met before.
Zhong has invited me to meet many times, but I am eager but dare not take practical action again, because I know that sexual relations will definitely occur once I meet, and I am sorry for my husband like that.
"Just one day, my husband said that he was going on a business trip for more than ten days. If this news had been put back in the past, I would have had some nostalgia and complaints, but that time, I was pleasantly surprised.". After I told Zhong the news, I gave him the detailed address of my family without any protection. On the second day after my husband's business trip, Zhong came to our house and took advantage of the gap between our children's schooling to get into bed.
Every day after that, Zhong would come to our house at a fixed time in the afternoon, and I was also waiting as scheduled. Unexpectedly, my husband's early return caught Zhong and me in bed.
When I saw the scene of my cheating, my husband insisted on getting divorced at first, but later he refused to divorce, but instead put on a cold iron underpants for me.
After that, I also tried to ask Zhong if he would divorce and marry me, but his answer was always wrong. Perhaps at the moment, I only focused on the confusion and distress caused by my iron underpants. Gradually, I gradually lost interest in online chatting. Now, I even hate online chatting, but I completely lost trust with my husband.
"I wanted to divorce, but I loved my husband and didn't give up my children. After returning home, I didn't know how to explain to my parents, and I couldn't find my lost career for marriage.". Walking at the crossroads of life, I have had the thought of suicide several times, but I have not even the courage to die.
Re:
Your husband is suspected of using violence to control violence, as well as of deep love and hatred. Faced with the punishment of your husband after cheating and your unwillingness to divorce, this matter is really a bit difficult to handle. "Because your days as a housewife over the years have made your husband's inherent male chauvinism increasingly inflated, making it very difficult for him to easily remove your iron underpants. It seems that tearing his face and divorcing is the only option, but the risk is relatively high.".
In the current situation, it's also a bit unrealistic for you to go out and find a job. Simply be lazy at home, but don't appear to be ingratiating with your husband. Instead, express your true melancholy and impetuosity, or your husband will mistake you for enjoying the treatment of iron underpants.
Either stay on the wagon and wait for her husband to lift her ban, or endure the humiliation of a courageous divorce.
(Intern editor: Lai Jiaxing)
