Post Date December, 03 2023
My husband and I got to know each other through introductions, and after spending a year together, we got married smoothly. It has been almost three years since we got married. I feel honored. My husband and I share common interests and hobbies, and we work together very well in life. The good times are not long. In the second year after giving birth, my weight suddenly increased sharply. Originally, I only had a body weight of over 90 pounds, but in the past two years, my weight has reached 120 pounds. The weight on my waist is causing me a headache. I am also working hard to lose weight, and I never thought that my husband would dislike me for this.
A month ago, I clearly felt that we had lost the intimacy that couples should have. I comforted myself that he may have been under a lot of work pressure, but in fact, he was cheating and causing trouble. I am a person who values emotions and don't want to give up our marriage easily. But when I saw him talking to a third party about my words, my heart was tingling. My husband actually said to me, 'My bloated figure makes me feel cold when I sleep next to him.'. He clamored for weight loss every day, but couldn't control his own mouth. He also said that a third party with a small waist like a water snake was his favorite. It's really disgusting.
I didn't expect my image in his mind to be so unbearable. I pondered for a week whether his infidelity was a showdown or a disregard. Within this week, he still set out early and returned late. After returning home, he had a playful and smiling face. If it weren't for the unexpected conversation between him and San'er, I really wouldn't have seen any flaws. After much thought, I still decided to talk to him. During the conversation, he didn't first review his cheating behavior, but first questioned me about peeking at his phone. Which one is lighter and which one is heavier, he can't tell! Without saying three words, we started arguing, and the more we argued, the more fierce it became, causing chaos.
When a man does something wrong, the first thing is not to criticize himself, but to blame others for their mistakes. I am completely disinterested in negotiating with him. I immediately filed for divorce and he immediately shut up. Perhaps he is considering how to live without a housewife. But my firm gaze told him that I was just getting divorced. People are so bullied and afraid of hard things. I demand that my property be divided in half and my daughter be in my charge. He began to panic, apologized to me and pretended to be pitiful in front of me. At present, I have not found any suspicious behavior from him. Is it necessary to continue the marriage in this situation?
Reply from Weiqing Consultant:
Hello. Marriage can never be peaceful, and a marriage that can cause big waves can only last for a long time. Men all have vanity to some extent, and having a charming wife in their family also brings face. After giving birth to a baby, the body becomes out of shape, which directly leads to aesthetic fatigue. "A graceful and graceful lady is a good match for a gentleman," maintaining a good body shape is comfortable for yourself, and your husband also likes it. The problem with your marriage started when you had a baby and gained weight.
Looking back, a person's appearance is not important, what matters is their importance to the family. However, your husband thinks that you are a housewife who plays a role in cooking and raising children. He cannot see your strengths and does not even have the good figure that a woman should have. The existence of this idea makes him unable to withstand the temptation from outside and craves the body of a third party. Since the matter had already been unfolded, he also bowed his head and admitted his mistake, which could indicate that he did not want his family to fall apart due to his infidelity.
Marriage requires constant maintenance and repair, and being unchanging only leads to aesthetic fatigue. It is recommended to exercise to maintain a healthy and good figure. In life, the knots in your marriage must be untied. Cherish the current marital life and don't give up easily. look before you leap!
