Post Date December, 03 2023
[Question]
Our divorce is already underway. I have searched a lot of relevant information online and also called the Civil Affairs Bureau to inquire about the relevant procedures and procedures. To be honest, I have no feelings for him in my heart.
During this period, whether he didn't return home at night or didn't arrive home until three or four in the morning, I just thought he didn't exist. His actions no longer hurt me, and I didn't feel any pain anymore. I just wanted to get things done quickly because of his bad behavior. For a long time before, I was in a state of resentment, sadness, and pain, and I didn't want to continue like this.
Unexpectedly, such a reversal occurred. Xiao San doesn't want him anymore. When I heard this news, my first reaction was to find it funny, especially absurd and ridiculous. I couldn't pretend to be lost in his state of mind or expression, but seeing him like this made me feel a bit unbearable. Leaving him at this time is like a double blow. Of course, I know he won't be unable to find other women, but after being entangled for so long, when the matter finally came to an end, his willingness to divorce was lost. He said he had no reason for divorce, and he knew that apologizing now seemed insincere and too late. However, it was because of the sudden departure of Xiao San that he saw who could be with him. He said he would cherish it in the future.
I don't know, should I give him another chance? Can I believe what he said after that?
Answer
The third party is the biggest obstacle that makes your marriage difficult to sustain, but it is not the only factor.
Since your divorce decision has been shaken, it's best to give your marriage a buffer period. If you leave at this time, you won't be able to persuade yourself to accept it calmly. Emotionally, it's easy to repeat. After divorce, if you remarry, the relationship is in a different state, so it's better to try to repair it first within the marriage.
A few suggestions: 1. Predict the situation and do a good job in psychological construction: For possible future situations, you need to think of general strategies in advance, such as why the third party left? What if she comes back after leaving? 2. Let bygones be bygones, analyze the causes of the problem: if the third party is no longer a problem, do not create conflicts again, but explore the internal reasons that led to his infidelity? Is it high pressure or fresh? Identify and solve problems; 3. Based on reality, adjust the direction of your relationship: After a period of time together, you can see the changes in each other. You can re feel the other person returning to your family, understand your inner expectations for marriage, and then determine how to take the next step.
This is a process that requires both parties to work together, and if either party does not cooperate, it will be difficult to repair the relationship. The role of guidance is also crucial. If you don't know how to express your emotions and thoughts, you can confirm with a counselor, simulate a conversation, and then communicate with your husband. During this period, the focus will be on companionship and healing, followed by the reconstruction of trust and care.
Why are some mistresses difficult to deal with and husbands ruthlessly abandoning their wives? Because the new relationship has matured, the old past has become a part that must be abandoned.
So, not all emotions can encounter such a bumpy situation. When life turns around, take advantage of it. Some mistakes cannot be corrected in time, so you must bear the consequences, and you and your husband still have the opportunity.
