Post Date April, 15 2023
My husband has been having an affair with a woman for over two months. He admitted to having a good impression, but denied having sexual intercourse. They stay together very late, sometimes even into the early morning. The phone call records are full of their connections, and I don't believe in the purity of their relationship. But I am willing to give him the opportunity to make corrections, hoping that they can cut off contact. But he wants to maintain this relationship and continue to socialize, emphasizing that he is just an ordinary friend. I always find opportunities to be together, I can't control the pain in my heart, I can't accept it. Sometimes I even think of suicide relief, it's just a flash, I'm afraid I might get melancholia like this. Should I get divorced? What should I do?
Ms. Zhou:
Your husband keeps in constant contact with another woman, ambiguous, and even denies it. He also wants to maintain his relationship with this woman, which really drives you crazy. Where does he do this to you? Your current pain comes more from speculation and imagination about their close relationship. In your heart, you actually believe that they have a relationship beyond friendship, so you find it very difficult to accept his powerless defense.
Staying in the imagined world, regardless of whether this fact exists or not, it is indeed easy for you to lose normal rationality and judgment, and you are also susceptible to depression. Actually, what you hope for is very simple. As long as he returns to his family, you can choose to forgive. But he doesn't admit it, and your forgiveness or not is meaningless. Since he doesn't admit it, no matter how far their relationship progresses, what you need to do is repair your relationship with your husband and attract him back with his easygoing heart. To free yourself from the hardships in front of you, you have to face and solve problems. Suicide will only make those who love you suffer for your choices, and it will not solve any problems. It can be inferred that your negative attitude has caused your husband to further distance you? Does a woman with wisdom and vitality make men more reluctant to leave? Find your own problems and shortcomings, make adjustments, and only then can you regain your husband's heart.
