My husband betrayed me, and I retaliated against him in the same way, but ruined the happiness of others

My husband is the owner of a small company. Although the company is small, he has spent several years of hard work to create it. When the company was first established, the work was very complicated. In order to manage the company reasonably, he personally did everything, working more than ten hours a day, which was quite difficult. During his entrepreneurial period, he had a strong drive. After working overtime at night, he simply slept on the sofa in the office. I was moved by his enthusiasm and would occasionally give him snacks.

After five years of marriage, I gave birth to a baby. His company is running very well. We bought a house and a car, and we had a very comfortable childhood. In a comfortable life, there are always hidden secrets behind it. In the first half of last year, I discovered someone outside of him. At first, I wasn't sure it was his lover. He often went out to socialize, and I guess it was some unscrupulous woman who seduced him. After all, his identity is easily missed by those women.

However, his cheating partner was a female client he worked with. Every time he goes on a business trip, it takes four or five days, but he actually goes to hang out with female clients. Recall that every time he answers the phone, he basically carries me behind his back. His mobile phone is locked with a password. When he comes back from drunkenness, his body will always smell of women's perfume. At that time, he did not raise his vigilance, but created countless opportunities for them to be alone.

I don't have sufficient evidence, he doesn't admit to cheating. My questioning made him more vigilant. He transferred his extramarital affair to an underground relationship, unaware of it. I no longer trust him, and I will only hate him even more for his unrepentant behavior. The resentment in my heart cannot be vented, and I am particularly suffocating. In order to vent my anger and retaliate against him in the same way, I targeted his company employee Xiao Li.

Xiao Li 26, a stranger, I am six years older than him. I usually maintain it well, and I can hardly tell my age. He just came to his husband's company not long ago and I didn't know my identity. I created a chance encounter with him, pretended to have a good impression of him, and even went to his house to cook for him while he was on a business trip. For his birthday, I bought a birthday cake, invited him to dinner, and even gave him a gift. The young man was soon moved by me and pursued me, and soon we rolled the sheets.

I intentionally let my husband know about this, but he got angry and immediately fired Xiao Li. I shared my identity with Xiao Li and the misfortune of our marriage. Not only did he not blame me, but he also proposed to divorce me and marry me. At the same time, he also broke up with the girl who was engaged to a blind date in his hometown. He heard that he was planning to get married during the Chinese New Year, but now he feels that I need him more than his girlfriend.

I was in a daze at the time. I was supposed to teach my husband a lesson, but I didn't want Xiao Li to have a girlfriend and even retire. I felt very guilty. Since my cheating incident was successful, my husband's attitude towards me has become even colder. He insulted me when he was drunk, saying that I deliberately lost face on him. Now, the company employees are discussing him, and people's hearts are scattered. Looking at his appearance, I feel very satisfied, and the thought of our marriage reaching this point makes my heart ache.

Nowadays, he doesn't mention divorce, and I am being pursued by that young man in various ways. I find myself doing something wrong, and this negative behavior has ruined my own reputation and the happiness of others. I don't know how to go in the future, who can help me.

Reply from Weiqing Consultant:

The most irrational way for a husband to cheat is to retaliate against him in the same way. A woman living with this mindset will only bring marriage to an end. You don't mean to divorce, just want to warn your husband that you are not easy to bully. But you used the wrong way, causing him to lose his sense of shame towards you and become more resentful and resentful.

In this situation, it is necessary for you to have a patient conversation with your husband. Marriage is like a stagnant water, and neither person listens to it, which is meaningless. Don't torture each other. Talk about your future life. If you want to continue living, find your own reasons and correct them.

Another young man, you should apologize to him, tell him your purpose, at least make him aware of his pursuit, it was just a futile effort. Pursuing one's own happiness is the most genuine idea. Open your heart and speak your own voice to make the marriage last. I wish you happiness.