Post Date December, 03 2023
My wife and I got married in 1995. He was a transportation man. He was not very sensible at that time. He was arranged by his parents. I never fell in love. After two years of blind date, I got married and later had a pair of children.
He usually comes back in a day or two when he is driving outside. I work at home and take care of my children. The day is considered to be a happy and well-off life in the eyes of others. I also think so. But at the end of 2013, I found him with a woman in the neighborhood. At that time, I felt that the sky was falling. How could my beloved betray me?! Then we divorced.
Brother Shan, to be honest, I have feelings for him, but I can't get over that. Why did my sincerity trade for his betrayal? Later, after being advised by relatives and friends, he was allowed to enter the house for the sake of the child. He also said that he had gone wrong.
In 2014, he and his cousin went to XX to set up a mixing plant. In this way, we came back several times a year, and our hearts went farther and farther. I know that he is not so good, and the dog can't change his habit of eating shit. On the sixth day of the first month of this year, his sister-in-law sent 52.0 red envelopes to other women. His sister found out and talked to him. Unexpectedly, he found out his problem. I came back in the evening to take his mobile phone and told him that I could find out who the red envelope was sent to. His expression was very strange at that time, and his heart was about to jump out. At that time, I found that the red envelopes were sent to three different women, 5.20 and 52.0.
My heart no longer hurts because I died early. I gave him two ways, one is to get out and never enter my house; Second, to earn money, you must put it into my card. Nobody can move it and leave it to the children. He said he asked me to go to XX with him, said he didn't want money, and gave me my mobile phone for safekeeping. It's a joke. I can't even see him in front of my eyes. Besides, it's impossible to go to other places.
The next day, I called his cousin and told him that the company's account details must be sent to me later. I work in my hometown, and the money must be put into my card. He always said that he didn't want money, but the actual action was not. There were more than 20000 on the card back. When I looked at it again, it was gone.
How can he be so frivolous? He is such a scum. I make a noise, but the two children are very embarrassed. He told me to give me another chance, and the chance will surely be gone. I have nothing to ask for. I don't care as long as he lets money into the house. I have no feelings for me and he has no feelings for him anyway. It's just a habit, and it's impossible to share a room with him. I wonder if my idea is feasible? I used to be distressed by his spending money. Now it doesn't seem to be spending money at home. It doesn't matter. What's the matter?
[Reply]
Without hope, there will be no disappointment. If you are disappointed with a person, you will fall into despair. To tell the truth, I can feel a kind of desperation burning in your heart from your talk. You have no expectations for marriage and your lover, and all you have is helplessness and sadness.
Many times, it is true. For a woman, there is nothing more distressing than the betrayal of her marriage. When the people she loves are no longer on her, the helplessness and pain are enough to make her feel deeply broken. After all, after more than 20 years of being together, it is impossible to say that there is no emotion. At least, in the years we have gone through together, our lives are covered with traces. A pair of children who have been bred together will remind ourselves from time to time that we have you.
However, when the curtain of marriage is completely torn off, and the besieged city with an empty shell cannot save its long-injured heart, then there is no need to choose to make up. The balance of love can never be out of balance. Once tilted down, the focus of marriage will not be stable. You don't care about the reason why your husband can do it completely, which means that you are dead. In this case, you want to maintain a form of marriage for the sake of children or interests. Do you think this life will make you happy? Will it reassure the two children?
So, take a new look at your marriage itself to see whether it is possible to repair it and whether he has enough sincerity to repent? If possible, why not fight for it? Only when you try your best at last, you will not lose anything if you give up again. But just a cold-eyed attitude and a world-breaking attitude may not be able to get the free and easy you imagine. Maybe you will feel more pain and sorrow at any time.
