I am 36 years old, and my wife and I make a living by setting up a stall. We sell some breakfast with local characteristics. Although our business is booming, we cannot make a lot of money, but I am still very satisfied.
Since the first day we set up our stall, a man in his forties has been eating breakfast with us. Gradually, we get to know each other, and for this reason, my wife and I also call him 'brother' every day. Occasionally, on rainy days, when my wife and I don't set up the stall, he will take us around the city.
His wife is an introverted but very kind woman. Every time we visit their house, she prepares us with a few hearty dishes. For a foreigner, being able to taste the warmth of family affection in a struggling city makes me immensely grateful. In my heart, I also treat each other as my own brother.
Until one day, while busy with lunch in the kitchen, I had to pee urgently and went out to the bathroom. However, I saw 'Brother' and my wife holding hands on the living room sofa. At that time, all three of them were very embarrassed. Later, my 'brother' made a comeback by saying that he was helping my wife read her palm, and I could only smile with disappointment. Since then, I can feel that the relationship between my wife and 'brother' is extraordinary.
I couldn't help but think of my wife's recent changes in my mind. Before, when I went to the vegetable market or strolled on the street, my wife would always take me along. Now, my wife sneaks out alone during my busy time. The more I miss my wife, the more inappropriate my actions become.
Yesterday, my wife mentioned going on the street again, and I foolishly agreed as usual, but this time, I chose to follow her.
I saw my wife walking less than ten meters out of my house and made a phone call. Immediately after, 'Brother' and my wife took a taxi and drove away. I had to stop a taxi to track them down. As a result, my wife and 'Brother' arrived at a very inconspicuous private 'bathtub', and my heart was shattered at that time.
In order to catch the traitors thoroughly, I did not immediately step forward to stop their behavior. Instead, I waited for four or five minutes before kicking open the door where they took a shower.
As expected, they were already hugging each other naked.
After the adultery was exposed, my wife and 'brother' both apologized to me and swore that as long as I didn't disclose it, they promised not to have any private meetings in the future.
I grew up in the countryside, and even for a rural man, finding a daughter-in-law is so easy that I dare not easily mention divorce. However, as life improves, my wife does dirty things behind my back. Thinking of these, I feel a bit unwilling.
Can you understand the mindset of wanting to divorce but not having the capital to do so? What should I do next?
Reply from China Sexual Health Network:
When you come from the countryside to the city, many things in the city have a significant impact on your wife, including their lifestyle and attitude towards life.
From your relationship with your 'brother', it can be seen that he did not give you much. At most, he only allowed you to go to his house for a few ordinary meals. However, these ordinary meals made you and your wife feel the warmth of home in a foreign land. Therefore, you have a grateful heart and brought our relationship too close, to the point where your wife worshipped the 'city people' and was seduced by 'brother', They quickly developed feelings.
I don't think they love each other too much, it's just a dangerous game that can't be endured after the commotion, and it will suddenly stop when exposed.
Why do you say that? At least both parties have their own families, and no one is willing to say 'leave' to their marriage, which is the fact that they will never get together.
Many times, we are plagued by the closest people around us. Only in the face of temptation can we truly see a person's essence. That is to say, the grateful 'brother' in front of us is not worthy of being treated as a good friend.
Since your wife has already made a poisonous oath to you and you cannot part with this emotion in your heart, why not try giving the other party a chance to atone for it. Inevitably, after a revelation of the truth, the man would be too embarrassed to come to your stall for breakfast, and your wife would not have the opportunity to see the man frequently again.
Please believe that without love, it won't take long for emotions to fly and drown in each other's hearts.
(Intern Editor: Lai Jiaxing)