My husband and I got a fake divorce, but it turned out to be a mistake. He pretended to be real and was taken by another woman

My husband last year, without my knowledge, provided a guarantee of 1 million yuan for a friend as two guarantors. In order to preserve his property, we applied for a fake divorce and handled it at the Civil Affairs Bureau. He left the house clean. Afterwards, one of his female friends who had known him for a long time, who was one year older than my husband and 46 years old, gave him warmth and even paid him 200000 yuan. My husband said she was very kind to him and they had feelings, not just because of money. They had already cohabited together. My husband comes back once a week and says he's visiting his son. We agreed on a fake divorce at the time, but he acted up and started a cold war.

I don't have his days, there's no man at home, and I can't handle many things. I still miss him. I recently called him home to negotiate, and I said that as long as you remarry with me, I will take out a loan to repay your debt. He asked me to give him 3 days to consider, and my mother-in-law also advised him to live with me. My relatives and friends helped me advise him. My mother-in-law threatened him by saying that if he marries a woman outside, she will die. Could you please give me some guidance? I really want this marriage, what should I do?

reply:

Hello, what does it mean to lose big by small things, and what does it mean to be wise and be deceived by wisdom? In principle, there is no such thing as a fake divorce. As long as you handle the divorce procedures at the Civil Affairs Bureau, the law takes effect. From that moment on, you will terminate your marital relationship. You are still calling him one husband after another, but to be precise, you should call him your ex husband.

Of course, after all these twists and turns, you should also feel surprised and realize that your marriage for so many years is nothing more than that. This man's face only values money more, and he may not have a deep affection for you. In fact, even if that wedding letter still exists, do you live a happy life? Wouldn't he go out looking for a woman? I'm afraid it can't be avoided either, it's just that he's now more able to brazenly and confidently go out and act recklessly.

The key is that you care about this marriage very much, and you have a dependence on this man, even though he is very unbearable. Now, your proactive pursuit of reconciliation puts you in a passive position. Even if he reunites with you, I guarantee he will not break his relationship with the woman outside. So, you must think carefully now, is this marriage still worth nostalgia, and is this man still worth paying for him?

Many times, too, what exactly is love and marriage is nothing more than a willingness to fight and a willingness to suffer, and one party is willing to commit baseness for the other party. Isn't there another sarcastic saying that asking what is love in the world is just a matter of lowering one thing. Since both you and your family and friends urge you to get back together, I don't want to be a bad person who spoils someone else's marriage. Follow your own heart. For such a man, if you lower your profile and offer the temptation of money, the possibility of him turning around is still high. However, after returning to marriage, you need to be prepared to share the fruits of love with others, and whether you can live a happy and fulfilling life depends on letting nature take its course and praying to the heavens.