Post Date April, 15 2023
It's a long story. In my heart, I think of everyone very well! It's so easy to trust people that I made a big mistake! In marriage, due to my mother-in-law's strong personality, I didn't handle her well, but I didn't have a bad heart, which was the kind of person who barely spoke. What I imagined at that time was that I wanted my husband to coax me, and then my husband would be good to me, and then I would be good to his mother! "My husband won't tease me, he's also relatively busy at work, and I've always supported him at work. I hope he can spend his spare time with the children and me. He doesn't have this awareness and says you need to find a husband to tie on your pants belt. I'm very sad to hear that!"! Perhaps I like my child in my heart, but I can't tell from what I do on the surface. The most important thing is to accompany him to the supermarket, what kind of physical exercise, learning, and life are basically just asking questions!
"Because he spends less time with us, sometimes some friends (men and women) ask him to play cards, and I say I don't want him to go. He still wants to go, or else I'll go too, and he won't take me, and then I'll be alone in tears.". I think I am a person whose spiritual needs outweigh material needs. My imagination at that time was that a husband and wife would work together to buy a car and a house within our capabilities, jointly coach and cultivate children!
"We didn't buy anything. I lost some money when I was trading in stocks, and then on the Internet, I accidentally added friends to my float bottle to chat with netizens. I never thought anyone was bad. At that time, I just wanted to talk to netizens about my emotions and sorrows. I didn't expect me to encounter bad people. We talked from work to financial management, and we thought it was very good.". He said that he was a policeman and a teacher, and there were no bad people in my mind. Then he kept saying that he was constantly studying and studying, and I believed it. I have always encouraged him to work hard, and it is not easy to muddle through until now. I will make more contributions to the motherland and reflect the value of life. Just keep talking like this, I said you work hard, find a good wife, and so on. Then, he told me about the problems he encountered in his work life, such as losing his wallet, ID card, bank card, and so on. Then, I helped him, and I gave him 100000 yuan before and after. Then, when I was in the worst mood, something happened that shouldn't have happened, and my husband discovered it, and then he divorced me.
Due to a child's problem, I didn't move out to live. During the six months of divorce, my ex husband still said a lot of reasonable things and enlightened me, but now it's different. He said that he's single now and has freedom, and his words are different from the original. He has a woman outside now, but I don't know if he's playing or talking seriously. He said he doesn't need to tell me. But now that I still live at home, where should I go? I hope Mr. Pang can help me analyze it. Thank you very much.
After the incident came out, I realized that he was a person with a wife and children. This person had been married twice, and now his wife is a primary school teacher. I need the money once. He rogue said that he wanted me to take evidence, or you could sue me, and it would be a big deal to go to prison. I made a part of the money in the bank, and some of it was in cash. My relatives wouldn't let me ask for the money, but my heart was not willing. Now, some people in my family know about me and my ex-husband, and some don't, but now he has left the question to me. I live at home, and he won't want me to leave, unless I go on my own and want to leave, but the child won't be taken away. I don't know what my ex-husband thought, and the whole situation is like this. Please have Mr. Pang read it and ask me if you have anything to ask me. I hope you can give me some advice, thank you!
reply:
Hello, how can I describe you? I can only say that you are a woman with a simple mind, empty spiritual space, and lonely life. "You cannot be said to have been deceived because you are too simple and kind, but because you are selfish and have simple ideas.".
"You should reflect on your own shortcomings in life and not use a bad mood as an excuse. In fact, you have a desire for revenge in your heart, and you have bad attachments in your mind.". "Most of the time, being deceived by others is not due to the high level of fraud and tactics, but due to our poor defensive ability. The key is that we have a plan, and you should understand the reason why we are greedy for small gains and suffer great losses.".
In the current era of serious lack of integrity, it's not very funny that you can trust a strange man online without any worries and have such a flood of sympathy. Many times, we need to review ourselves and not always complain about others. The reason why others do not do well may also reflect how well we do. At the same time, it needs to be understood that no man is as good as we imagine. Perfect men are imaginary illusions, often hidden behind traps that you cannot touch. This is the cruelty and horror of reality.
Complaining, whining, and being angry don't solve problems, but the most important thing between couples is communication, which can solve many problems. Secondly, it is gratitude, tolerance, and understanding. If your husband doesn't have time to accompany you or makes excuses not to accompany you, it shouldn't be an excuse for you to temporarily get angry and hang out with male netizens. Why don't you understand my husband? He's busy at work and needs to socialize, and he has his personal needs. Of course, his lack of companionship with you is also a mistake, but he has his fault, and you have your bottom line and principles of conduct. You can't punish others for their mistakes and indulge yourself.
Sometimes, it is good for women to think simply and be kind, but they should not lose their ability to distinguish right from wrong and their basic judgment. Otherwise, they will become idiots. It is recommended that you check whether you can claim the borrowed money through effective legal means to minimize the losses. If the claim fails, there is no way to do so, and it is right to spend money to buy a lesson. The key is whether losing some money is small or whether losing your marriage is big. Let's be vigilant and see if we can work hard to repair your marriage. Sit down with your husband and have a good communication to eliminate your estrangement and misunderstanding. Your husband and you maintain such a state of being divorced and not leaving home, perhaps due to the consideration of children, perhaps still unable to part with your feelings, perhaps you still have the possibility of reconciliation, "It would be better if you could restore the old friendship. If nothing can be undone, you can only cultivate yourself and truly appreciate and mature, and your future and destiny may usher in a new turn.".
