My husband and elementary school girl calling each other husband and wife in a long-distance video makes me feel cold

I have been married to my husband for eleven years and have a ten year old daughter.

I am 36 years old and my husband is 45 years old. We met through an introduction at that time. At that time, I thought he was very talkative and everyone was okay, so I followed him. My family disagreed at the time, thinking that he was older than me, and it's not that he had a good economy. However, I believe that if two people truly love each other and work together, there will be anything.

After two years of filming in this way, we used our own savings, of course, he accounted for the majority. When we first provided a house, we successfully got married and had children. After getting married, his work has been going against him, often stopping after working for a month or two. I have been working for less than a year since the four years before my marriage, and I am paying for all my family expenses, including building contributions.

During this period, sometimes I said to him in a bad mood, saying that he was a useless person if he continued like this. This sentence kept him in his heart, saying that I looked down on him. But I really didn't mean it at the time. I don't even remember saying such things myself. Later on, I also apologized to him, but he always said that he would remember the words I said when he died.

Having been married for so many years, I really put a lot of effort into this family. Later, he found a job, but he was out of town. I have to work alone and take care of my children. When I first started kindergarten, my child didn't adapt to getting sick frequently. He not only didn't understand my hard work, but also said that I didn't take good care of my child. I really don't want my child to do this.

At that time, I felt that he was not good to me, and I was very cold hearted. Since the year before last, I feel that my child has grown older. He has been away for a long time, and we are like a single parent family. Therefore, I asked him to return to our place of residence and find a relaxed job that doesn't pay much, but allows him to come home from work every day. After coming back, the child became cheerful and lived in such a routine.

On December 8th last year, he joined the elementary school classmate group, and I knew from the beginning that he was chatting with that female classmate. After chatting for a few days, it turned sour and I started calling each other my husband and wife. The lesbian student had a son and a daughter, both of whom were sixteen years old and ten years old. They said that her husband was not good to her and that they were very happy chatting with me. They found true love because I always felt like giving each other space, so I didn't even look at his phone or anything.

Later, my daughter told me that when I was not at home, the two of them were chatting in a video calling for their husband and wife, which caught my attention. After checking the chat records, I found that the chat words were not eye-catching, but fortunately they were far apart. That woman is in Sichuan, and we are in Guangdong. When I first found out, I really couldn't accept it. I cried every day and couldn't sleep. But he thinks I made a big deal out of nothing. He said it was just a chat and didn't do anything else. He thinks he's not wrong and doesn't admit or correct it.

During this period, I asked my mother-in-law to persuade him, but he still went his own way. He told my mother-in-law that he was just chatting and didn't really cheat, nor did he take the money out. The financial power of the family was in my hands, and he only had a small amount of money, which he had voluntarily entrusted to me for management since before his marriage. But I really can't accept him talking like this. My heart is not with me anymore. What do you say I want this body for?

If I divorce, my child can't accept it. If I don't, I think he has hit my bottom line again. Most importantly, he doesn't know how to repent and has been chatting with that woman at work. That woman now wants to get divorced and come to him, but what my husband means is that he doesn't want to get divorced, wants to have a lover outside, and wants to enjoy the happiness of everyone. What do you think I should do now?

reply:

1. As far as you are concerned, the man you have chosen seems to have no ambition or sense of responsibility. And you, in addition to speaking harshly in anger and hurting his self-esteem, have taken on the responsibility that belongs to you, and have also taken on the responsibility that belongs to you. To some extent, your "silent" commitment is invisibly helping the tyrant to abuse, promoting his sense of responsibility as a man, a husband, and even a father.

2. A man is an animal that loves face and values dignity. At times, his inner strength is far from strong. He needs to be encouraged, affirmed, and respected. When you hate him, it is obvious that you have used the wrong method. A constant attack will only make him jealous. A person's abilities vary, and when their work is not smooth, you need to stand from their perspective and give them corresponding encouragement, so that they can have confidence in themselves.

3. Over the years, perhaps you have not been satisfied with him enough. Apart from the disappointment surrounding him and yourself, you have lived a very hard and painful life. As a woman, you cannot feel the happiness and warmth from your family, which I can understand very well. But who can blame me for choosing such a marriage that is neither light nor salty, nor smelly nor fragrant. Many times, marriage should not be easily chosen from the beginning. A marriage that cannot perceive happiness at the beginning can only lead to disappointment and loneliness in the end.

4. In fact, this man is becoming more and more indulgent, which is closely related to your subsequent "tolerance". In addition to making regular complaints about him, you have also chosen corresponding tolerance. For example, in order to maintain the integrity of the family, you agree that he should find a simple and easy job. This man is not ambitious enough, and you do not have a certain degree of supervision over him, resulting in him not being able to consume his extra energy, He began to develop negative thoughts to dispel emptiness and boredom, which is why he acted recklessly in the situation where he had the opportunity.

5. Your husband has already started walking on the path of corruption. Although he has not yet reached the point of physical infidelity, to be honest, his spirit and thoughts have already betrayed you. Since you have your own bottom line and principles, it's easy to handle. All you need is to clarify your attitude and demonstrate your behavior. It's true that your husband doesn't want to get divorced or leave this family, but it's also true that he wants to have an extramarital affair outside. Therefore, you must not let his wild ambition succeed. As long as he dares to continue taking this step, you must make him pay the corresponding price for it. This price can be to have him personally write a letter of repentance in front of family and friends, or to have no choice but to dissolve the marriage. In short, You cannot let him continue to trample on your dignity and bottom line, otherwise you will always live in the shadow of an unhappy marriage.

6. Every kind-hearted woman needs to remind herself not to be kidnapped by children at any time for her happiness, let alone use it as an excuse to cover up her inner weakness. Although children are innocent, it is indeed children who suffer the most from divorce. However, in order to maintain a seemingly complete family for their children, and to lose their dignity, they bear the torment and torment of their hearts every day, What is the significance of having a virtual marriage body for the healthy growth of children?