My friend exposed the love affair between my husband and the bar girl. I put my cards on the table and asked for a divorce. He refused to admit it

My husband and I have been married for three years. He works in a state-owned enterprise and is a leader. I am introverted and like to stay at home. After we got married, I became pregnant, didn't work, and worked as a full-time wife at home. My husband is very clever, especially deceiving. In the first year of my marriage, I was inexperienced in taking care of my children. Every time I was upset by my child, he would say something humorous or take me to have a big meal to make me happy.

At that time, our feelings were really good. I naively thought that he would treat me like this all the time. Who knows, the marriage lasted only three years, and then was interfered by a third party. I can't remember when he had more and more social engagements and went home every three or five times full of alcohol. I complained that he was only busy with work all day, regardless of the life or death of me and the child, he said with a disgruntled face that I spent his money all day, and had nothing to do with it. He didn't show any consideration for him.

When I heard this, I felt aggrieved. I take care of my children and do housework, which is no easier than him. Those who are my age go shopping and have coffee when they are free. I wander around the children and the kitchen every day. Is it easy for me? But he doesn't understand me. He always thinks that if he makes money, his position at home will be higher than mine. I should support him and can't complain. When the two people have different ideas, there are more and more contradictions. Finally, he betrayed me.

On my mobile phone, my friend sent me a little video of him dancing and kissing with the barmaid, which made my heart ache. My friend said that she often saw my husband with this bar girl, and she secretly followed them and found them going to the hotel to open a room. The more I listened, the more angry I became. I directly played cards with my husband and asked him whether he would have to live this life. I showed him the video of him dancing with the barmaid. He broke out and said that my friend was provoking dissension. He was just drunk and the barmaid seduced him. How could he blame him?

I reasoned with him, "When drunk, you can kiss other women casually? Can you have a room with someone else? Is that the reason? This is the excuse you made for your cheating. Divorce, divorce now." He listened to my words and was completely unconvinced. He refused to admit his cheating and said I made trouble for nothing. Finally, simply leave home with your luggage. I really felt collapsed. He made a mistake and left me and the child. I'm so sad and upset. What should I do?

Reply from the consultant:

When a man cheats, a woman's first reaction is to break out. You just saw a small video and heard a friend say that he had a house with a third party, but you didn't catch the reasonable evidence. He said that you framed him, and you can only say nothing. After all, your evidence is insufficient. There are cracks in the marriage, and I have to find out the reason.

He works hard outside to make money, and you continue to complain to him at home. This is your fault. Home should be a warm and relaxed place, and constantly complain about his dissatisfaction. Over time, he will have an aversion to you, and his feelings will also change. Now things have come to this point. Anyway, you should calm down and communicate well and catch the reasonable evidence of his cheating. If he still doesn't admit not to correct, then sue for divorce and protect his rights and interests.