Post Date April, 15 2023
1. A woman unexpectedly appears at home
That was Friday, July 19th, and I took a break. My cousin called at noon and said she would leave work early in the afternoon. She asked me to accompany her to buy shoes and said that the pair she had bought earlier was not good looking. "This is the only time we get married, we can't just make ends meet." I agreed. Anyway, my son is spending summer at my grandparents' house, and I have nothing to do. Besides, I have a very good relationship with my cousin.
When I went out in the afternoon, I called my husband Chen Tao and asked him to have dinner on his own. I didn't come back at night and stayed at my cousin's house. The two of them had a good time reminiscing about the past. This cousin is my second aunt's daughter. When I was in junior high school, I stayed with her for two and a half years to study nearby, just like my own sister. These officials all know, so they are not surprised. And then he said, since you're not coming back, I'll go play mahjong with Lao Huang and them tonight, it's been a long time. I say it's okay, just don't hit too big.
After wandering around for a while, my cousin didn't see anything suitable and decided to go eat first. Who knew there were many cars on the road at that point, and my cousin's driving skills were not very good. When she turned the corner, she collided with someone else's car. It's not very serious, but it's not easy to solve it. Fortunately, my cousin's husband came quickly and they were busy dealing with it. I left on my own.
After eating something casually, I decided to go home instead. Walking to the door, I heard someone talking at home. I think maybe it was because the Chentao card game didn't gather enough people and they came back. So without much thought, I inserted the key and turned the door open.
But the scene before me stunned me.
The living room and dining room are connected, and when you open the door, you can see a long haired woman wearing a chiffon floral dress sitting diagonally by the dining table. Chen Tao is wearing an apron and placing a steaming dish on the table
Suddenly seeing me open the door and entering, everyone in the room was stunned, and Chen Tao's originally smiling face froze.
After being stunned for a few seconds, I rushed into the bedroom. I don't know what to say to Chen Tao, let alone who that woman is, what the hell is going on... my mind is in a state of chaos
Chen Tao seemed to have whispered something to the person, and soon heard the sound of high heels and the sound of closing the door
I think I should stop her and let her speak clearly, but I really dare not face it. At that moment, the whole person was completely blinded.
2. His explanation was just a momentary softening of heart
When Chen Tao sat across from me, I don't know, but I don't know when his tears had blurred his eyes and his face was all wet... I used to be very proud, thinking that my husband was very good, and even boasted to my sisters. If he dares to mess around, I will dismiss him! I was really surprised when I encountered this, and I was stunned by the blow.
He said again and again, it's not what you think. I just met her and chatted a few times. She said she wanted to visit her at home... I really just made a meal to entertain, and didn't do anything else
I looked at him with tears in my eyes, not knowing what to say or what to ask... Finally, suddenly, a sentence came out: Let's get divorced!
He quickly explained, Xiaoyun, I haven't done anything to apologize to you. Believe me, really!
So what's going on here? What do you tell me to believe?
I originally planned to date Lao Huang to play cards, but as I was about to finish work, she suddenly spoke to me on QQ. We had been talking for more than two years before, but in the end, our personalities didn't match and she got married. I haven't seen her since we got married, only occasionally chatting online when we met. I don't know what's wrong with her today, but she said she's in a bad mood and wants to talk to me. She asked me what I'm doing after work, and I said I'm going to play mahjong. She said she's not afraid of her wife Kneel punishment? I said without hesitation that you went to your cousin's house. She said she wanted to visit my house and missed my cooking skills. I had also cooked for her before... Seeing her pitiful words, my heart softened and I agreed. Later, when she took a taxi over, I casually made two dishes to entertain her. That's the way things are, really. You haven't done anything else... You must believe me... "
I sat for a while and tidied up a few clothes. I want to leave this sad place.
Chen Tao grabbed me and asked where I was going. I said I'll go, you go pick her up and become the hostess, I'll go back to my mother's house.
No matter how much he pleaded, I persisted in leaving.
If I stay any longer, I don't know what I will do. I just feel so uncomfortable that I suffocate. The thought of them talking and laughing at my house is like a sharp knife, cutting through my emotions.
3. I trusted him so much
Seeing me back, my parents were a bit surprised. I said Chen Tao was on a business trip and was bored at home alone. He came back to stay for a few days. Mom was quite happy. "It's good to come back and stay for a few days, I'll make you some delicious food." But as she closed the door and lay in bed, tears wet her pillow.
Chen Tao was a high school classmate of his colleague and got to know him by chance. The first time we met, we had a good impression of him. When we had a meal together, my favorite dish of stir fried dried pork was turned in front of me. As soon as I was about to pick it up, the table had to rotate. He held it down and waited for me to pick up the dishes before he let go. I caught the look he gave me, a bit embarrassed, and I also remembered this man who didn't say much but was attentive and considerate.
At that time, he also returned to being single and had been breaking up with his girlfriend for several months. Colleagues also intend to match us up.
Later on, I added QQ and became a very chatty friend. Later, he sent me a text message expressing his wish to be his girlfriend. I agreed, and we got married six months later.
I have never done much household chores at home and am not good at it. After marriage, cooking and other things are all the worries of Chen Tao. He is very hardworking and has a good temper. Many friends who have visited my house envy me very much, saying that I am lucky to find such a loving husband. Occasionally, when he works overtime and is busy, I bother to cook some food for my son. His son complains that he is not as good as his father, and even calls his father to complain about me; Have free time on weekends, or go to my parents' house, or go out with the whole family to play; Attending parties, he always gave me face, helped me with my bags, served me groceries, and made my colleagues tease me several times... Those days, when I think of them, I am really happy. But now it seems so unreal.
He did perform really well, so I never doubted anything. I never asked about his dealings with anyone. Sometimes he plays mahjong with his familiar friends, and as long as he says it in advance, I won't ask after them. Anyway, they play together, and the maximum win or loss is only three to five hundred yuan, which is not a big deal. At home, I never saw him receive any messy phone calls and text messages. How could I have imagined that he had been secretly in contact with his ex girlfriend!
4. How to Keep Marriage Going
Those days, I didn't sleep well and thought hard, trying to find the gap between us and figure out what was causing him to do such a thing? It seems like it's all small things. He said I don't like going to his parents' house and that I look down on his family a bit; Say I'm a bit lazy; Say I love buying clothes indiscriminately; Say I'm a bit headstrong... but aren't these all small things? Which couple didn't have any minor disputes. Is this the reason why he did something wrong?
What makes me even more annoyed is, have they ever done anything? I have asked him before, and he has mentioned cohabiting with his ex girlfriend himself, but he hasn't had any contact since he met me, and his phone number hasn't even been saved. I thought that page would be flipped over forever. But who knows that things are unpredictable.
In the following days, Chen Tao kept calling and texting me, explaining and reassuring me. I didn't even pay attention, my heart was so chaotic that grass grew up and I couldn't make any decisions. He said he would come and pick me up, but I firmly refused. If you dare to come, I will jump downstairs. He had to stay away for now.
My parents also noticed something was wrong and pressed me, so I had to say that I had an argument with Chen Tao. They called Chen Tao on the phone and criticized him, saying that it was normal for the couple to argue, but the Cold War was wrong. Chen Tao could see that I didn't tell the truth and seemed to be relieved. He apologized repeatedly and promised not to make me angry again... My parents urged me to go back with him.
After returning, we were still in a cold war, and when he spoke to me, I basically ignored him. He cooks, but I don't eat either. I eat instant noodles myself or go out and grab some. At night, as soon as he tried to get closer to me, I kicked him away with a single kick, using great force
On the evening of July 28th, I suddenly received a call from a strange woman. I immediately realized that she was the one who wanted to hang up and had nothing to say with her. She quickly stopped and said a few words, hoping you would finish listening. I said give you one minute.
She said she was sorry because she was in a bad mood and had a fight with her husband. She felt that her husband didn't care about her and couldn't help but complain to Chen Tao, Chen Tao has always been soft-hearted and finds it difficult to refuse requests from others. So it's not his fault for this. It's because I was too willful and selfish and didn't consider others' feelings. But I really didn't do anything wrong to you, and I hope you can forgive him. In the past, I didn't know how to cherish it, and I hope you can cherish it well
What else does she want to say? I don't want to listen anymore, hang up. It's strange, the more I listen, the more uncomfortable I feel. I feel that my emotions and self-esteem have been trampled upon, and I don't know how I can continue to walk well with him in the future.
Kindness without principles is more hurtful
Reporter Zhang Si
Former girlfriend is already a sensitive term, let alone appearing in your home alive. The scene of "happy and harmonious" makes everyone angry, it's really shameless!
The problem still needs to be properly resolved, as scolding returns to cursing.
Firstly, I don't believe the saying that there can be friendship without love, that's really strange. Breaking up means breaking up, missing out means missing out. Why bother turning around and disrupting someone else's life? So if that ex girlfriend confides in your husband in the name of friendship, and the location of the confidant is also chosen between him and your home, it is obviously a conspiracy.
Then, through your description, your husband is a bit confused, and now he still cares about you the most. Perhaps he is really just too soft hearted and has a little nostalgia, and doesn't know how to refuse that lonely woman. He didn't know that unprincipled kindness can actually become a sharp sword for hurting people at specific times. Fortunately, you caught me and braked the car!
My suggestion is to give him a hard lesson and let him review his mistakes from the depths of his heart.
Divorce is really unnecessary, your relationship has not yet broken to that point.
(Intern Editor: Lai Jiaxing)
