My best friend was subjected to domestic violence. I defended her and temporarily took her in, which has become a nightmare for me in this lifetime

My husband and I are college classmates and campus lovers. We got married two years after graduation. We are both only children. When we got married, the two elderly people helped us buy a house, and the mortgage payment was made by my husband and me. The house is 90 square meters, two bedroom, not big, but very cozy. After a simple renovation, we moved into our own small home.

My husband and I are both nine to five office workers. For the sake of our family, we are busy, tired, and happy every day. In my first year of marriage, I became pregnant and my husband was so excited that he couldn't sleep. When the child was two months old, he was busy going to the mall to choose clothes for the child. I laugh at him for being too impatient, he's still several months away from being born. He doesn't care which one he likes, whether it's boy's or girl's, he just starts buying it. Seeing him so devoted to the baby, my heart was filled with joy.

Since I became pregnant, he has been very active after work, almost always leaving work on time, helping me cook delicious food and increasing my nutrition. When my child was seven months old, I couldn't even see my feet while standing, and my body was very clumsy. I couldn't move easily, and my feet had edema. My mother-in-law has high blood pressure, and my husband dare not let him take care of me, so he brought my mother. A child with a mother is like a treasure. Every day, my mother cooks delicious food for me, which is so happy.

I was immersed in the joy of being a mother, and one day I received a WeChat message from my best friend Xiaoshan (pseudonym) inviting me out to chat. I asked her to have a video chat, but she said it was inconvenient. Due to my bulky body, I chose a restaurant next to the community to meet her. She's wearing sunglasses and a mask, do I still joke that she's a dodger?

Unexpectedly, after she took off her sunglasses and mask, I was so scared that the water cup in my hand almost broke off. I saw her: the circles around her eyes were black and purple, and her left face was swollen as if it were inflated. Before I could ask, she burst into tears, saying that her husband had hit her and started hitting her because of a fight. She was still looking for a woman outside and didn't know what to do, so she came to me for help. After listening, I was so angry that I almost had fetal pressure.

My best friend and I have been good friends since junior high school. I have always regarded her as family. She got married to the boy who was on a blind date at home after graduation, but I didn't expect to be out of touch for a few years, resulting in this appearance. I hate men hitting women the most. I took my best friend back home, but my father was not well. My mother recently went back and happened to have a bedroom available for her to live in. My best friend wants to divorce her husband, but there is a financial issue involved, but he refuses.

I asked my husband to find his law student. A week later, my husband and his classmates, along with me, "killed" her at her house. As soon as the legal rules and regulations were set up, the man was so scared that he obediently signed for a divorce, had no children, and had half of his property. Afterwards, I temporarily took in my best friend for the time being, fearing that she would turn a blind eye and do something foolish. She lives in my house, and I treat her like family. I chat late at night and sleep directly in the same bed. Sometimes I'm afraid that my husband and I may not be familiar or embarrassed, so I make a special appointment to play poker to increase the distance between each other.

When my child was eight months old, I felt very unwell and was hospitalized for observation. The doctor said it was okay, but it was caused by excessive nervousness. The smell of the hospital is very unpleasant, so I wanted to go back early. My husband said he has social and overtime work, and it's not convenient to pick me up. He asked me to call my mother and accompany her first. Come and pick me up the next day. At around ten o'clock in the evening, I really wanted to go home, so I called my mother and helped me pack my luggage. The two of them took a taxi back.

Just as I opened the door, a gust of alcohol rushed into my nose. I quickly covered my nose, thinking that my husband might be drunk. My mother took me to the house and left without stopping. She said she would take me home and he felt relieved. If she had to hurry back, she wouldn't worry. My father didn't force me to stay, and I had a best friend at home, so it's not convenient to sleep. I just pushed open the bedroom door when I heard my husband's snoring. I walked lightly to the bedside, turned on the desk lamp, and was dumbfounded. My best friend and husband slept together, with their messy clothes thrown by the bedside

Caught in the eye by the light, both of them woke up. My husband saw his best friend in his arms and was so scared that he ran out of bed. Her best friend, on the other hand, asked me awkwardly, "Why did you come back? I was so angry that I was about to faint. My husband quickly came forward and explained, unsure of the situation. He thought his best friend was me, but he was drunk and didn't know how to come back. My best friend also began to explain that it was her fault. Seeing that my husband was drunk, she helped him into the bedroom. He treated her like me, but she was confused for a moment and didn't resist. I couldn't bear to look straight at such a messy scene, turned around and wanted to leave, almost stumbled and fell.

My husband held me back and wouldn't let me go. I shook off her hand and went downstairs to call a car back to my mother's house. My mother asked me what the situation was, but I just shed tears and didn't speak because I didn't know how to speak. I took in my best friend with kindness, but I didn't expect her to hook up with my husband. After more than ten years of friendship, she has become a nightmare for me all my life. Stroking the unborn baby, I really don't know what to do?

reply:

You and your husband form a family, helping others is a good thing, but we also need to consider multiple aspects. A very clear principle is that single men and women cannot live under the same roof, which can easily lead to romantic relationships. You have not considered this point, and even when you are sick and hospitalized, you can rest assured to let your best friend stay at your home. People are separated from each other, and no one knows what they think‘ The story of 'the farmer and the snake' exists everywhere in today's society.

You can definitely help her rent a house and take it in for a day or two, but taking it in for a long time can be a bit excessive. She has half of the property given by her husband, which is not a desperate situation. She can completely rely on herself. Why is she unwilling to leave so long? You should have a lot of thought and not just break your teeth and swallow some words just because she is your best friend.

Now the problem has arisen. Your husband got drunk and took the opportunity to climb onto his bed. Although your husband claimed it was a misunderstanding, no one was present and I don't know the truth. Don't be suspicious for now. Find out the truth about the matter. If it is true as your husband said, it will be a complete misunderstanding. So break up with your best friend decisively and don't have any further contact.

On the other hand, observe your husband's attitude towards this matter. If his attitude is sincere, you can give him a chance. After all, he will soon be a family of three, and you don't want your child to grow up in a single parent family in the future. Be cautious in handling this matter, gain wisdom after a fall, and consider everything carefully. Don't let your good intentions ruin your happiness.