My 50 year old husband has been cheating repeatedly for many years, do I choose to divorce or wait for him to lose his function

Some people say that if one party cheats, the rest of the marriage will be garbage time, and I am now. My husband has cheated repeatedly for many years. Recently, he is old, nearly 50 years old, and has diabetes. He said that his ability has declined. In the past year, he has been good to me, but I feel that he occasionally cheats and has no trust in him. Every trace of his family can cause me suspicion, and he is also very painful. However, I feel that he has not completely cut off his infidelity. When arguing, I really want to get divorced, and then I want to endure until the day he loses his function. He often takes the initiative to show his kindness, but my hatred is hard to dispel. I really don't know how to continue life?

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Hello, for men, sex can be addictive, which is why your husband repeatedly cheats. Your husband is nearly fifty years old, and if his physical condition is not good, there will indeed be days when he cannot move. The key depends on how you think. Some women will swallow their anger when facing their husband's infidelity, some women will choose to sweep him out, and some women will turn a blind eye. Personal conditions are different, attitudes towards emotions are different, and the final choice results are also different.

If it's because of infidelity that makes you feel depressed and melancholic now, making yourself live to the point where it's unbearable, then after all these years of frustration, it's time to live a good life for yourself. At this age, why do you still suffer from that cowardice? If one's own conditions really allow and their children grow up, then don't be so aggrieved. Why? When one is young, they suffer for their children, but when they grow old, they still have to torture for such an unpopular thing. Is it interesting?

So, think about it carefully. What do you think can make yourself suffer less? People should live a more free and easy life, and not always punish themselves with others' mistakes. If others don't respect you or take you seriously, we learn to cherish ourselves.

Reader's Letter:

Hello, I would like to inquire about something. Last night, I played on my phone and chatted with my classmates for a while. I met my ex boyfriend and added a chat to chat about past events. Later on, my husband saw that he was very angry and wanted a divorce. My husband is a person with a single emotional attachment and can't stand any betrayal. Can I call this betrayal? The content of the conversation is not out of line, but there are also some things I mentioned about being together before. What should I do?

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Hello, normally speaking, try not to communicate with your ex boyfriend or anything after marriage, as it can easily cause trouble in your marriage. You should have known this in your mind for a long time. You also know that your husband is a person with a single emotional attachment. He is very sensitive to betrayal and infidelity between men and women, so why bother poking this hornet's nest with nothing to do?

Faced with your husband's anger and frustration, you can only smile at him, lower your figure, sincerely apologize, and tell him that it will never happen again in the future, striving for his forgiveness. Of course, if you hope to have a smooth and long-term relationship with your husband, you really need to be calm and stop dating your ex boyfriend, and don't harbor any other thoughts. After all, the past is already over. To be honest, whether your current behavior is considered betrayal or not is the most clear in your own heart. Only you understand what you think, and you can break this connection in the future. The key now is that your husband thinks you have betrayed, so find a way to comfort him well. Don't let such an episode affect the stability of your marriage, and take it as a lesson to not make any more mistakes.