A bad marriage staged a funny plot. It seems that Sven's husband turned out to be a flower thief. I chose to be patient again and again after being angry, in order to give my children a complete home, and also hope that my husband can turn back. Finally, the word that taught me was that dogs can't change their shit. So I moved out of the house where my husband and I have lived together for 9 years with my children and a divorce mentality. Originally, I thought that the weight of divorce could awaken my husband's dirty thoughts. Unexpectedly, what he gave me back was to spend money to find a young and handsome lover for me to vent.
For the first time in my life, I was disappointed with my husband. At this moment, I just want to divorce, or only in this way can I be completely relieved.
However, when I really went to the divorce process, my heart was very painful, or I could not afford to give up 9 years of work, or find a stepfather for my child.
My husband and I are college classmates. We are both in first love. Originally, our love also died after graduation, but my husband finally chose to go back to my hometown with me for development.
I have a stable job, and my husband has a small business.
In business, there are gains and losses. I didn't put too much pressure on my husband.
Only in these years, with the rich social experience and more social entertainment, the husband has gradually become feminine. Among them, some women were pursued by him on his own initiative, and of course, some women came to his door on their own initiative.
The first time I found my husband cheating was when the child was six years old. At that time, my husband and I had a cold war for nearly a month. During this period, my husband swore that he would manage our marriage well. For this reason, I chose to forgive.
In the past three years, I have known more than ten husband lovers, and I don't know anything.
Every time he finds out that his husband is unfaithful, he will break up with his mistress quickly, and the poison vow will be repeated. Soon, he will look for a new lover.
I'm tired of these days. Although the husband did not agree to divorce, we have entered the mode of divorce.
Recently, I have been thinking wildly:
1. After divorce, what should I do if I find another man with a heart?
2. After divorce, will the child blame me, or will the child rebel against me?
3. Is marriage a match in forbearance?
I can see that you belong to the type of good wife and good mother, or the type of easy to be bullied. For this reason, your husband chose to abuse you by cheating. He thought you would choose to forgive this time, but his bad idea of helping you find a lover completely broke your bottom line. For this reason, you got angry and chose to divorce.
There are indeed more "mistresses" and "mistresses" in today's era, but these phenomena will never be the mainstream of marriage, and will not become the mainstream at any time. In other words, more people still yearn for the loyalty and stability of marriage.
After divorce, we can only say that there is a probability of meeting a philanderer again, but the probability of finding a reliable man will be higher.
A failed marriage will eventually bring different degrees of harm to children, but a marriage full of quarrels and betrayal will do more harm to children.
To some extent, marriage is indeed a match in forbearance. However, the most important relationship in marriage is mutual. In the current situation, it's not that you don't want to manage your marriage hard, but that your husband doesn't cooperate.
Divorce is a helpless or correct choice under the current situation. Don't forget, there is another phenomenon called "remarriage".
After divorce, you and your husband will be single again. I hope he can redefine the meaning of 'home' and 'marriage' when he is single. If he can wake up, you can choose to remarry. If he is willing to fall, then you can consider renewing the chord.
From the divorce to the time you expect your husband to correct his mistakes, you give him a year. A year later, if he is still lustful, then put down the hope of remarriage and start your new life.