Marry a chicken into a dog, and marry a dog into a chicken. This situation is interpreted by countless men and women every day. Men blame women for their vague love, and women blame men for their suffocation. But few people have thought about how Mars and Venus should get along so as not to collide and die. Marriage is not as romantic as expected, but it must have rules to follow. Learning to "use" men well is the first lesson of women's "marriage management".
1. Men are born with a sense of responsibility, and women should learn to use it.
Some women have a good time in their careers, but they are often frustrated in love and often betrayed by men. It is not because men cannot be controlled by low IQ, but because they have given themselves a wrong identity - "Asia the Invincible" in the new century.
Of course, these high-minded women have never felt that they are Asia the Invincible. They see themselves as "independent women in the new century". Spend money without a man, change the light bulb without a man, and connect the water pipe without a man. Although the shoulder is weak, it can carry the tripod, and the slender jade hand can hold half the sky.
It is this kind of strong self - orientation that makes men feel ashamed in front of them and deeply doubt the value of their existence. Men are born with a sense of responsibility. Although the development of the day after tomorrow is uneven, it is always the nature of the bone. A woman who is too tough will kill his nature and only let him turn to other women's arms, protect her from the wind and rain, and make money to support her family, so as to regain his lost self-esteem.
Men are for use. His energy is conserved. If you use less, other women will naturally use more. Don't use "independence" as a reason for "not using men". Independent women in the new century are by no means strong women as hard as men. They are just one of the new female characteristics. It is compatible with "gentle", "kind", "considerate" and even "lovely", and embellishes the charm of women together.
2. "Use" men to master skills! It is not advisable to fight hard.
"Learn how to use men" is also a technical job. However, it is more "needed" than "used". "Being needed" does not mean being unruly and capricious, pestering, and needing the help of men in everything; It is a proper sprinkling and playing tricks, and a gentle show of weakness.
"Use" men should also take the initiative. Many times, men prefer women to take the initiative to say what they need, instead of laborious and ungrateful speculation. You might as well make good use of birthdays, wedding anniversaries, Valentine's Day and other anniversaries to actively ask for the love and romance of men. Don't say "no, waste money" incoherently, and finally leave yourself alone.
"Use" men also have degrees. Even if a smart woman makes trouble with a man, she only uses it as a seasoning for her emotions. You can express your dissatisfaction in front of him at the right time, but don't hold on to it. What you need to do is to teach your man to pay attention to your feelings, but you can continue to spoil sweetly later. Mature men don't like troublesome women. Although they can coax them, they will seriously consider the relationship between you.
3. Editor's conclusion: Women must "learn to rely on mountains without mountains".
Marrying a chicken is a dog, and marrying a dog becomes a chicken. This kind of situation seems to happen every day. Therefore, before a woman decides to entrust her life to a man, she must understand that marriage is not as romantic as she thinks it is. It is a science, and it should be methodical. Man and love are like a horse. Whether you ride him or let him lead you depends on the level of love skill you cultivate.
In the war of love, the first strategy must be to "use" good men. Only when a man "uses" properly and radiates the energy he must emit can he not only meet the man's face needs, but also cut off other women's thoughts and comfort themselves. Of course, no matter how skillful men are used, women should keep a vigilant mind and quietly polish their "independence" weapon. Only those women who hold the idea of "being independent without mountains" can really be comfortable in love and marriage.