The phenomenon of infidelity among middle-aged men has been on the rise in recent years. According to the "National Investigation Report on the Status of Marriage and Extramarital Affairs in the 1990s" recently released by the Social Bureau of the Taipei City Government, up to a quarter of married people in China are worried that their partner may have an affair, indicating that the problem of extramarital affairs has become so serious that it cannot be ignored, which is closely related to the psychological characteristics of middle-aged men.
A mature middle-aged man has basically overcome the childishness and fanaticism of young people, possessing both talent and knowledge, and being able to calmly and rationally assess the situation. In addition, some individuals stand out in their careers, and their career and social status can arouse the envy of women. In addition, their bumpy experiences make them adept in dealing with society, better understanding the psychological characteristics of women, and able to demonstrate a true masculine demeanor in both work and life. Therefore, if the marital relationship remains unchanged, middle-aged men will fall into the quagmire of emotional confusion.
The infidelity of middle-aged men is mainly related to their mentality. A man who marries prematurely often makes blind judgments about love. It is only after waking up from a dreamy first love and spending another honeymoon that they truly meet a woman. And once the sticky life of newlyweds comes to an end, the idols in men's hearts are completely shattered. Men in confusion tend to turn their attention to the outside world. At this point, once encountering a woman who understands oneself, he and she may? Create new emotional entanglements.
A man's infidelity is mostly related to changes in his social status and economic strength. Some men are? Being successful in one's career may lead to emotional transfer and may lead to ambiguous relationships with their subordinates, such as female secretaries and clerks. And this kind of power based infidelity often leads to negative consequences. There are also men who engage in business and become wealthy, with a desire for wealth and lust. Many wealthy middle-aged men,? What is it to say that having an affair with a mistress can lead to self destruction of the family and entering an abyss? Economic infidelity. These two types of extramarital affairs are not based on emotions? Fundamentals, but women? Sell one's body for greed for status, power, and money. This phenomenon has negative consequences for society and families.
The two complex phenomena of extramarital affairs are emotional extramarital affairs. Is a married man concerned about his current family life? Confused, when he suddenly meets the beloved gaze of another woman, his emotions will shift. He may not have a physical relationship with her, but they are emotionally attracted to each other. Due to each having their own family and children, he/she is unable to break free from the constraints of his/her original family and cannot temporarily release new emotional sustenance. This type of extramarital affair is relatively complex to solve.
Therefore, in order to capture the hearts of middle-aged married men, reduce the occurrence of extramarital affairs, and maintain the integrity of their own families, both spouses need to manage their marital life well after marriage, and roughly make efforts in five aspects:
Firstly, frequent communication: Poor communication is a common problem between couples. As emotions weaken and topics decrease, the chances of having an affair increase accordingly.
Secondly, praise more and criticize less: Women should not be too picky, sensitive, flashy, pretentious, or overly vain in their relationships, as these can lead to men's boredom. We should learn to understand the troubles in men's daily lives, and pay more attention and consideration to their husbands.
Thirdly, cultivate common interests: identify common topics and interests, and increase the time for both parties to spend together.
Fourth, intimate physical contact: Use small gestures to express care and love, such as holding hands, rubbing back, praising, etc.
Fifth, managing oneself: one should have the ability and independent thinking, not rely on others, and coordinate with each other in various aspects such as life needs, emotions, and career.
Of course, the phenomenon of extramarital affairs is a pole in the emotional world of men? To solve a hidden and complex problem, it not only requires the efforts of the wife, but also requires the discussion of human civilization, morality, emotions, and psychological issues to find ideal guidance methods. Sometimes it is even necessary to resort to laws to restrain it. But a wise woman should read the existing marriage as a new textbook after marriage, explore it, and use her wisdom and love to make the flowers of love bloom and bear fruitful fruits.
Marriage is a city, where those outside want to enter and those inside want to come out. When a man is tired of marriage and there are other women outside, how can a woman hold onto the castle of marriage.
Some women know that their husband has had an affair and use various means to cut off the man's financial resources and control his daily actions, thinking that the man is yours. In fact, even if they tie the man's body, they still cannot control the man's heart. When a man's heart is tied by an external mistress, what should a married woman do at this time?
Women with some connotations know that in today's era, they should always be wary of the sea algae like mistresses in "Dwelling Narrow". Men who are too excellent often increase their value while also being the most dangerous. Men may be under too much pressure.
Disgusted of day after day repetition, life needs to be adjusted too much. Even an honest man can hardly resist the seduction like caressing and tenderness. This kind of seduction is more related to himself than anything else.
Because it was you who polished the furry young man into an elegant and excellent man, the process was not easy. Despite all the experience of a woman for this man and her family, she found out that her husband had been robbed by others. This kind of pain can be described as a woman who is completely hopeless.
There is a story about a generous woman who dares to let her husband look for women outside, supports her husband in looking for beautiful women, and even helps him hang out in a bar and find his favorite type of lover.
And behave decently and generously in front of the lover, and before leaving, don't forget to kiss the husband intimately in front of him and his lover. The husband can naturally sit still under the arrangement of his wife, showing great love.
Many women are puzzled, thinking that this woman is crazy or doesn't love her husband anymore? Actually, it's not just because women love their husbands that they treat men this way. To put it in trendy terms, it means raising men in a free range, which is somewhat similar to grazing in nature.
The more restrained and free the sheep are, the more they will find ways to escape. Only the sheep raised on the grassland know to return to the fence at night.
Men are also the same. They always have a lot of curiosity about the outside world. Instead of asking them to secretly taste the fish, it's better to buy the fish for you in a big way. How dare men violate the rules when women eat noodles?
What if a man really has a mistress? I advise most women not to act like they have to leave their husband in front of him, not to use the techniques of crying, making noise, or hanging themselves, and not to let Obasant cry and hold onto his husband with tears.
This will only make men feel helpless and cannot make them change their minds. Women should learn to turn around gracefully and not regard men as the only reliance in life.
You need to understand how much you have gained by bundling yourself with men over the years, and whether this love is still worth staying behind. If you really love men, you will go crazy if you leave them, and men's minds are all focused on the mistress. Women need to pay attention to some strategies.
A woman who has been betrayed should know how to fly a kite. The kite should fly high, hold the string that comes back in her hand, and control the string in her hand. If the string is gone, there is really no hope. How can a kite come back?
Those mediocre looking women, when betrayed, react in self-defense, self-defense, and even scold the mistress if they don't understand.
What's unpleasant to hear and scold? I wish I could scratch it a few times. This shrew's behavior cannot be used, especially in public places, without the mercy of the third party. On the contrary, the third party feels that you are a typical person to kick, even if they go home and still put away their sadness while serving soup and tea to that smelly man. The grievances and bitterness in their hearts are poured into their stomachs.
This emotional feigned death is already on the brink of death, how can one disguise oneself as the female Jesus who saved marriage. God, save me! This chicken ribbed marriage requires women to figure out how to feel their pulse.
As the saying goes, mentality determines one's own destiny. How to save a marriage on the brink? Those women with high EQ. I often speak with my eyes, carefully investigate the true process of things, and negotiate with the third party.
You can choose an elegant environment to impress the third party in terms of consumption level. Try to be branded throughout your body. You can go to a beauty salon for beauty treatments without sacrificing your financial resources, and become the type that men love.
When talking to the other party, be calm. Don't start by saying things like 'you don't want face'. Ask the other party to speak first. Silence is the best weapon of destruction. Keep a close eye on the other party's eyes and defeat them.
Then he casually said, 'That's good, that's good.'. I was as young as you back then, and people will always grow old. My husband gave it to you.