Finding a beautiful and virtuous woman to be his girlfriend is what all men want. Before marriage, men want to have a beautiful, knowledgeable, courteous and gentle woman with them. Because of its beauty, it is close to the "eye", which is both pleasing to the eye and "beautiful to eat"; Because knowing books and etiquette must be well educated, self-restraint, grace and charm, like the crape myrtle in the TV series "Huanzhu Ge Ge", men have a good face and a balanced heart; The reason why a gentle woman is favored by a man full of masculinity is that the beauty of feminine femininity can make a man's overly "rigid" character produce a kind of harmony, making it "Yin and Yang complement each other" and "hard and soft". It is no wonder that our mentor Marx most appreciated the virtue of women is the word "gentle". It can be seen that "gentleness" is the secret weapon of women and the "killer mace" of men's emotions. Therefore, countless men have become women's "prisoners".
Before marriage, we want our girlfriend to be beautiful. After marriage, men not only rely on women, but also obey them. Because of the love of a good wife at home, men deeply feel that it is good to have a home. Therefore, home has become a man's "resting harbor", "warm paradise"... In order to live up to his wife's expectations, men tend to be more angry, more progressive and more promising in their career. With the passage of time, men have achieved success in their careers. The "honeymoon" between husband and wife is no longer "honeymoon". As we get along with each other day and night, what is new is no longer new, and what we know is already understood, thus entering the "run-in period" of the relationship between husband and wife. As the year goes by, there is a "seven-year itch" for men. At this time, because of the frequent social contact and the increase of temptation, men's state and performance are unusual when they face the woman they want, regardless of their purpose. First, show lofty ideals rather than common people, and win with outstanding professional level; Second, they show that they are highly talented or highly educated. They know astronomy, geography, music, chess, calligraphy and painting. They are omniscient and omniscient, as if they are knowledgeable and can predict the future; Third, the language is witty and humorous. No matter what kind of teaching, or the topic of "art in the room" in ancient times can be understood and explained. It is called sublime science and advocates civilization. Even sensitive topics that women think can be ripped off their faces and talked about in a special way, just like pearls of pearls and pearls. It can be said that it is in a perfect state of "deep feeling has its own poetry, and deep meaning has its own rhyme".
Nowadays, men will find extramarital affairs in order to find an unusual feeling in others. Admittedly, speaking comes from speaking and performance comes from performance. When men face extramarital feelings, there are only two situations. First, as described by a female writer, "A man is a dog. Based on different structures, it's no surprise that he goes out to take a few baths in his life. Anyway, he still wants to go home. He is loyal, and dogs are loyal." This passage confirms the secular evaluation of men: "Like the new, like the old." Some people compare this man's feelings to "Shaobing (Baked cake in griddle)", which can be divided into several pieces, Falling in love with several women at the same time. Secondly, men are purely lecherous. In the face of women with different styles, temperament and appearance, they always show envy in different ways and different performances. There is a great deal of greed of "eating from the bowl and looking at the pot". To tell the truth, most men just stay in the stage of "lust", instead of becoming "lecherous". They hold a state of "respect each other as guests", "be at ease" and a certain distance to the women around them, and will not easily offend her and occupy her. For this kind of "just say and don't do" man, if you ask him why he likes to appreciate "beautiful women"? He would call it "young with mentality". It seems that women's beauty has added another value. For most men, there is no "use value", but also "appreciation value"
Men's marriage psychology is really different, from before marriage to after marriage, their women can feel it. But if a woman wants to let her man know his psychology forever, her psychology before and after marriage is completely different.
(Intern editor: Cai Junyi)