Post Date December, 03 2023
Wife's confusion: Why did he suddenly alienate me
"Why did he suddenly shout at me? I just want to care about him!" Xiao Junye sobbed and told his close friend A Wen, "Really, I asked myself what I had done wrong. Since we were married for five years, we have been like glue, and he has never been so cold and rude to me. However, suddenly, he turned away from his usual warm, gentle and considerate attitude towards me and became very cold..."
"For six days, he was like a bird suddenly trapped in a cage, fidgeting and hiding while reading, flipping through the books and constantly changing channels while watching TV. His sweet words were gone, he ignored me, even locked himself in his room, unwilling to talk to me. I tried hard to approach him, but instead of taking effect, I suffered a nameless anger from him. Why did he suddenly alienate himself? Was he outside "Is there another hole in the sky?"
Tears slid from her charming big eyes, and her pitiful appearance was enough to melt a piece of pig iron. "Such a good woman that her husband doesn't even know how to cherish?" Ah Wen felt aggrieved for Xiao Jun and Ye, but she didn't know how to comfort her.
Expert solution: Maybe it's a man who's on "period vacation"
His reaction may be really hard for you to accept. But if you think love is over, you're wrong.
Experts believe that Ms. Xiao's lover may have experienced periodic low moods. This has a certain universality among men, and is medically known as the "cycle" of male physiology and psychology.
From the perspective of physiologists, it is impossible for men to menstruate, but for them, there are always several days of emotional fluctuations and even physical discomfort at regular intervals. Some foreign medical experts call it a "low tide" phenomenon for men, while some doctors jokingly call it a "period vacation" for men. This is actually a biological rhythm change, which is the result of changes in hormone levels in the male body.
All living things have biological rhythms. Human growth, development, physical strength, intelligence, heartbeat, respiration, digestion, urination, sleep, and even emotions are all controlled by the biological rhythms in the body. It's just that some people have obvious rhythms, while others don't.
Interestingly, there is a current saying that men's "period breaks" are also affected by the period of their loved ones' periods. There is also a claim that men's "regular holidays" are also affected by moon tides and weather changes.
According to some foreign studies, the emotional rhythm cycle is about 28 days, which affects people's creativity and sensitivity to things, understanding, as well as some emotional, mental and psychological functions. During the "emotional climax" period, he often exhibits high spirits and lively conversation, while during the "emotional low tide" period, he is depressed, depressed, and irritable.
Winning trick: give him freedom
When his psychological cycle comes, don't try to pull him back - give him freedom. As long as this period passes, he will naturally come back.
What you need to do is to care more about and understand him at this time, do a good job of psychological counseling, and prevent exerting greater pressure on him.
TIPS: 7 ways to get him to spend his "vacation" as soon as possible
1. Give him enough freedom until he recovers himself.
2. During this period, he may be accompanied by physical pain, so hurry up for treatment.
3. Induce him to go out, get close to nature, and pursue complete relaxation of the spiritual world.
4. Encourage him to actively seek ways to relieve his repressed emotions and regulate himself.
5. Try to avoid hurting him through his own mistakes, even if the harm is unintentional.
6. Restore the body's endocrine system to normal through exercise.
7. If this emotion is more severe during the "holiday" period and it is difficult for him to adjust himself, he should be encouraged and assisted in seeking a psychologist.
