Post Date December, 03 2023
A capable wife makes a lazy husband
Nowadays, "Yin flourishes and Yang declines" in the family has become a hot topic. I often hear wives complain that the husband is too passive, naive, dependent, lazy, and unreasonable. A real estate agent confirmed that 90% of the buyers of his house were made by the mistress. They couldn't do business with men. They didn't seem to make up their minds about anything. Finally, they had to find their wife.
Mr. Cheng, who works as an engineer in an enterprise, has deep feelings about this. His wife is a department head of a foreign-funded enterprise. She is famous for her courage and skill in her work. Her work performance ranks among the top of all departments of the unit year by year. It was with such a capable wife that Mr. Cheng began to become lazy in thinking and work at will. He often thought that his opinion would not count even if he said it. Anyway, his wife had her own reason, so it was better to let her decide to count. Mrs. Cheng, who is accustomed to wielding the power of strategy in the unit, is also accustomed to it. She is responsible for the purchase of houses, stocks and electrical appliances in the family. The result is a vicious circle: the more capable the wife is, the more passive the husband is, the less confident he is, and even appears stupid and clumsy. Similarly, men are not satisfied with their passive state. They feel that they are a tiger trapped in a cage. Although they can roar and roar, they can't move freely. They get used to it for a long time and don't yearn for freedom at all.
Negative attitudes are related to childhood
Psychologists have analyzed that most of these men were influenced by a negative father in their childhood, and could not build up the image of a man full of emotion, vigor and vitality. It is this "generational inheritance" of negative personality that hinders men's reform.
Fortunately, now there are finally men to study and prompt men's problems. Today, the male liberation movement in the western world is also growing. If both men and women work together to break the same chain that binds them, instead of fighting with themselves or the other half, then the phenomenon of "prosperity of yin and decline of yang" will no longer exist.
For those with "passive syndrome", experts believe that it is better to quantify "passive" as "active", communicate with people more on weekdays, participate in activities that are interested in cultivating sentiment, and often stay with some optimistic and cheerful friends. If a wife is more intelligent and sociable than her husband, she should also take into account her husband's feelings while giving full play to her own abilities, and take the initiative to seek his advice and guide him to participate in the common affairs of the family. (Sort out Yu Qiong)
Top 10 symptoms of "passive syndrome"
Psychologists have summarized the common manifestations of "male passive syndrome" and found their characteristics as follows:
1. Extremely emotional, often angry about a little thing, but can't explain the reason for the anger.
2. Go home and be silent, either smoking alone or sitting in front of the TV.
3. He yearns for solitude, is afraid of communication, and family chat will upset him.
4. I always feel tired. It's either backache or gastrointestinal discomfort. I can't find out when I go to the hospital.
5. Unable to concentrate on listening to his wife and children, always distracted and absent-minded.
6. Lose everything.
7. Not willing to talk about his situation outside to his wife and family, and not to tell his grievances.
8. Avoid sex life, either wait for his wife to fall asleep before going to bed, or linger in the newspaper pile or in front of the TV until late at night.
9. I don't want to participate in social activities with my wife. I can only accompany my wife to restaurants, movies and so on, because such activities do not need to use my brain, nor emotional or psychological communication.
10. inexplicable boredom. I want to do things, but I can't do what I want. "I have high vision but low ability, and I have great ambition and talent", so I feel guilty, regret, regret, and blame myself.
