Post Date December, 02 2023
For many middle-aged men, the most important thing is career success. Like Daming, without particularly outstanding achievements in their careers, or encountering difficulties or bottlenecks, they will develop pessimistic and negative emotions towards their aging and unsuccessful career situation, which is called "age phobia", also known as "middle-aged crisis" by psychologists.
Psychological Cases
Patient Daming is 45 years old this year. He came to this unit when he graduated from university at the age of 23, and it has been a full 22 years now. Currently, he is only a deputy chief staff member. If he hasn't been promoted in the past year or two, it may be difficult for him to have any more opportunities. But unfortunately, the new colleagues transferred to the unit this year are in good working condition, and Daming doesn't think his chances of promotion are very high.
Daming couldn't tell his wife about this worry because she couldn't help and would only nag and cause trouble. Previously, he would still talk to colleagues and occasionally complain online. Recently, he has lost even the desire to confide.
Daming's fear of age seems to have arrived overnight. At a recent classmate gathering, he was also particularly depressed. Watching his classmates driving luxury cars and brand-name clothes dangling in front of him, this stimulation was unbearable for him and caused him a lot of psychological pressure. Daming increasingly felt that he was useless, and after struggling for most of his life, he achieved nothing.
He often fantasizes, such as whether he should change jobs, resign and start business overseas, or immigrate to Canada or Australia. He always thinks anxiously that if he doesn't change, he will definitely not be able to catch up with his classmates by rocket, nor can he catch up with this era of increasingly high consumption.
But no matter how restless Daming stayed up all night and how frustrated he was, he couldn't drive away the reality of his growing age. He suddenly felt that at this age, many dreams had already passed away, and what had not been realized seemed as if it could never be realized again. He really doesn't know how to persuade himself anymore.
Psychoanalysis
For many middle-aged men, the most important thing is career success. Like Daming, without particularly outstanding achievements in their careers, or encountering difficulties or bottlenecks, they will develop pessimistic and negative emotions towards their aging and unsuccessful career situation, which is called "age phobia", also known as "middle-aged crisis" by psychologists.
The biggest signal of this condition is one's own sense of depression, accompanied by insomnia or drowsiness, decreased appetite, and always feeling uncomfortable. Disturbing life events often exacerbate this sense of depression and begin to doubt everything in life. Life attitudes also become more negative than before, exacerbating the feeling of being in middle age and drifting through the wind and rain. This type of man often chooses to remain silent and avoid treatment, and in severe cases, he may even choose suicide as an escape method.
However, people with appropriate psychological preparation can smoothly navigate the waves of middle-aged crisis.
Psychological prescription
After reaching middle age, the key is to readjust one's direction. It is necessary to gradually shift from focusing on external things to paying more attention to one's own soul, gradually realizing the wisdom of life, in order to alleviate psychological pressure. Whether middle-aged men can truly dispel their "age phobia" depends on their ability to "let go" in terms of finances, relationships, and fame.
Of course, people instinctively increase their life expectations. This naturally has its positive significance, as it is a psychological driving force for personal progress and social progress. But 'the extreme will bring the opposite'. Blindly treating life with unrealistic expectations.
Perhaps it is precisely some people who spend precious time in the psychological dilemma of depression and resentment every day, and are unable to enjoy the joy and happiness of life for a lifetime. The higher the expectation, the greater the psychological emotional conflict, which is a conclusion of social psychology.
In addition, no matter how busy work is, Daming should keep the habit of reading and studying every day. The simplest way to combat impatience is to find powerful power in knowledge. People with strong inner strength are less susceptible to environmental influences.
If depression and depression have already affected the body, it is advisable for Daming to schedule a long vacation and return to his hometown when he was a teenager, or go to a foreign island to rest and adjust his state.
(Intern Editor: Wu Weijie)
