Post Date December, 03 2023
Many people believe that marriage is the tomb of love, but men also believe that marriage is the tomb of their freedom. Many men will escape when talking about marriage, not because they are not ready to say that they are still young and do not want to marry prematurely. Nowadays, many men have a playful attitude towards feelings and have no intention of marriage at all. If you find that your boyfriend is such a person, then you are advised to find your own happiness early. Although this is painful, it is more reliable than wasting your youth. But not all men in society are like this, and part of it is because of men's subconscious. So what kind of subconscious will make men resist marriage?
Fear of marriage
You have been in love for many years, and even cohabited for some time. He still didn't take the initiative to marry you, not because he didn't love you enough, but because he was afraid of marriage and didn't have the mental preparation to enter it. In modern society, the divorce rate has risen sharply, and people no longer trust marriage.
In the past, I thought that marriage could last long and let the other party stay with me all the time, but now all kinds of temptations are everywhere. No matter men or women can resist the temptation to cheat. Sometimes men start to fear marriage when they see their friends get married and leave.
Not prepared
Maybe some men will be very happy when talking about marriage. Your sudden remark is like a sudden attack on a man. Love is different from marriage. If a man wants to get married, you should give him enough mental preparation, not surprise him. Otherwise, men are easily scared away by you.
Before you propose to marry him, you might as well give him more time to make mental preparations, for example, often mention the happiness of others after marriage around him, give him a hint, and check whether he is ready to marry.
Afraid of changing their life style
Men don't want to get married because they don't want to change their life style because of marriage. Look at the colleagues who complain about their work every day but still haven't changed jobs. Because we have been used to it for many years, it will take some time to readjust to the sudden change, and many people do not want to change their life mode casually.
Marriage means that the two people want to live together. It is more likely that they live together as a family. Problems such as mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, private life, etc. came one after another. You have to adapt to the bad habits of the other party. It seems that everything is good for the other party in love, but not necessarily after marriage. If a man has decided to change his life style, he is ready to get married.
Too much pressure
When a man is single, no matter how little money he makes, he can spend it on his own. But marriage is different, which means facing various pressures such as paying off the mortgage and raising children. You can also go crazy every night, and you can be a moonlight clan... marriage is a matter of two families. When you are in love, you don't look at your family or your savings. You only focus on your feelings. When you feel right, you will be together. But marriage is not the same. You may pay more attention to both parties when they are in the right family, and when they are suitable to be your wife.
You don't have to bear too much when you are in love, but it's different after marriage. After marriage, you have to shoulder the responsibility of the whole family. Now most of the post-80s generation are only children, and you two should shoulder the responsibility of supporting four elderly people. This is a heavy burden, and the pressure is too great.
