Post Date April, 15 2023
Men come from Mars, women from Venus. People from two different planets naturally have significant differences in their attitudes, ranging from love to marriage. The following four aspects will help you understand the differences between men and women in terms of emotional and marital cognition!
A woman wants the love of her other half with all her heart
Love is all a woman has, but only a small part of a man
In the world of men, those who immerse themselves in romantic love all day are of no use, because men's achievements come from the development of their careers and the promotion of their social status, rather than relying on the dependence of their partners! As for emotions, they only eliminate their loneliness.
"But the driving force behind a woman's life comes from her partner's wholehearted love, for which a woman is willing to make any sacrifices for him (as for work, it's just an activity that earns a salary and doesn't disconnect from society).".
Therefore, women are often disappointed that men cannot put her first (second to career, and sometimes second to friends), while men cannot stand women asking him to prove that they love her all day long.
Men and women have different perceptions of emotions
Men care about relationships, women care about feelings
The purpose of men's pursuit of women is to "establish a relationship", and usually in the process of pursuit, men put women first, and will also show their best side in order to woo them; However, as long as the relationship is stable, the activities pursued will slow down or even stop, suddenly falling from peak to bottom. "A man's romance begins with love at first sight and ends with lifelong engagement."
Women are willing to accept men's pursuits because they "feel" good, and only by maintaining good feelings can women determine relationships. Once the good feeling stops, the relationship stops. "A woman's loyalty begins with a lifelong commitment to each other, and ends in despair."
Men's sense of crisis comes from "relationship" vacillation, which is why the most taboo thing for men is women's betrayal of "relationship". Once they think they are wearing a green hat, jealous anger can make them lose their usual sense, regardless of their educational background.
A woman's sense of crisis comes from a decline in her "status", which is why a woman's greatest concern is that she is not the "favorite" of her partner. Once she believes that someone else deserves her husband's attention and attention more than she does, even a quiet little woman can do amazing things. (For example, making aqua regia) So as long as a woman keeps a man's face up, everything is easy to talk about; As long as a man makes a woman feel happy, he will also let bygones be bygones.
Differences in marriage concepts between men and women
Men view marriage as accepting obligations, women view marriage as granting rights
A man's decision to marry means that he will take care of her for the rest of his life from now on. (But not necessarily taking care of her for the rest of her life, and occasionally "taking care" of others, which varies from person to person.) A woman's decision to marry means giving the key to the door of her heart only to that man and accepting only his feelings (but if she takes the key and doesn't open it, the key will be taken back). Men use loyalty to express love, and support to continue relationships.
Women express love by sacrificing it, and rely on emotion to irrigate their feelings. "A man's sensitivity has been impaired since the day of his marriage, and he will not revive until he feels threatened.". "What women want is the feeling of being held in the palm of their hands and being loved. They don't really want men to give up. Why should men be stingy with sweet words?"?
Communication methods vary greatly
Men's communication depends on "speaking", while women's communication depends on "feeling"
When a man thinks he has a complaint, he must speak it out so that the other party can know, and there is no need to guess; And if you don't express your dissatisfaction! There is no way to improve convenience, so expressing dissatisfaction is to awaken the other party and solve problems, which is a bridge of goodwill communication.
Women are not accustomed to venting their grievances when they have any, and often adopt a tolerant attitude in order not to disrupt feelings and relationships. Women are also not accustomed to using words to express their emotions. Women believe that if men really care, they won't be unable to detect a woman's dissatisfaction at all, even if they don't say it out, they should know; But if a man is not careful enough, there may be a crisis when he speaks out
Men need to communicate before they feel good. Women need to feel good before they are willing to communicate. The biggest obstacle for couples to communicate lies in their different languages and their unwillingness to bend to each other's language, resulting in a lack of willingness to communicate. (This is also the origin of the quarrel)
Often misunderstand the other party's "complaints"
Men often eliminate women's complaints as "trouble shooting", while women often use men's complaints as a symbol of "empathy for another person.".
Men always regard women's complaints as dissatisfaction with their own shortcomings, believing that as long as these shortcomings are corrected, problems can be solved, and relationships can be unaffected. (But often women's complaints are just reminders of what men should do instead of asking for change.) Women often regard men's complaints as a symbol of "no longer loving me," and then begin to wonder if they are "no longer attractive," or if the other person has a new relationship. No wonder many women believe - just grab a man's stomach and you can grab him?
Cosmetic surgery or spending hundreds of thousands of yuan to go to a beauty salon to save a man's attention. "But in fact, men's complaints are often just about the facts, not about being dismissive.". Men's ignorance lies in the belief that the correction of behavior can redeem a woman's feelings of trauma. In fact, the most effective way to heal a wound is to create a sweet touch, rather than vows.
"The naivety of a woman lies in thinking that dressing up like a wild flower can prevent a man from picking wild flowers. In fact, sometimes a man's likes and dislikes are not really about starting a new life, but about proving that he still has someone to want.". At this point, the more crying and bickering, the more counterproductive it is.
Men and women are born with different behavioral patterns in the emotional world. When men cool their enthusiasm after marriage and switch from romance to rational life, women begin to open their hearts and prepare to enjoy romance. "If the person who is disappointed in their marriage is a first-rate fool, and therefore believes that changing a man (woman) would be better, it is a super fool.".
