Post Date December, 03 2023
As the saying goes, men are afraid of women's physical infidelity, and women are afraid of men's mental infidelity. Psychologists have found that the tolerance of cheating is not only affected by gender, but also by age and other factors. Hmm... Would you like to know something first?
Men and women who are more difficult to accept cheating
When it comes to "jealousy", perhaps just like me, you immediately have Medea in the tragedy of Euripides in your mind. This woman who hates because of love, because she is sad and angry at the change of heart of her lover, has finally killed all her children. Passers-by A, B, C and D also have different opinions on this sad goddess, including those who dare to love and hate, and those who think they have lost themselves because of love. What would you think of this problem if you were rational, such as Donald Wei?
In fact, I am more concerned about why she killed a couple of children.
Don't laugh at me. According to the interpretation of evolutionary psychology, this is the real starting point for discussion. Men and women in the world, regardless of whether you are born noble as a royal family or poor as a beggar, jealousy is definitely a delicate and huge monster in all kinds of emotions encountered in your life. Most of the time, it can't speak, even if it is not hurt and traceless, but it still has the effect of ten thousand ants eating the heart, and it will defeat a statue from the bottom. But back to the basics, such a powerful and invincible monster, its significance to human beings, still plays a role of reconciliation between the sexes, and is related to the rearing and protection of future generations.
The traditional academic view is that men are afraid of women's physical infidelity, because it will lead to their inability to effectively spread genes and reproduce; Women are afraid of men's mental infidelity, because if resources are divided by mistresses or mistresses, their children will suffer.
So we can understand Medea's behavior as follows: You don't have these two children anyway, why should I keep them?
But envy in reality is actually keeping pace with the times. More psychologists have found some very interesting changes, or the variables that originally existed, but they are not so well known. In 2009, Kenneth of the University of Pennsylvania? Kenneth Levy and Kristen? A study by Kristen Kelly examined the effect of attachment on jealousy. Their article published in Psychological Science said that in relationships with a high degree of attachment, women also have a very high degree of mind about physical infidelity, and in this type of relationship, men can't tolerate mental infidelity.
The truth that love can't hold a grain of sand must be true for true love.
Donald Wei is also more concerned about how long the monster of jealousy will continue to torture us. What Medea has done, however, is caused by the difficulties in her young heart. After all, no matter what kind of entanglement, it is better to get rid of it. Todd of Atlantic University in Florida? Todd K. Shackelford and Martin? A study published by Martin Voracek and others in Human Nature in 2010 examined the difference between jealousy in youth and jealousy in old age. The researcher put forward the hypothesis: maybe older women will no longer care too much about men's mental infidelity, because at that time, children should grow up, and it doesn't matter if you don't raise them; And men will no longer care too much about women's physical infidelity, because children can't be born, and wearing a green hat is not enough to raise a son for others.
Everything seems so logical and in line with our understanding. However, until seeing the conclusion of this study, Donna Wei found himself completely shocked, and was very confident that you would be shocked as well as me. Well, scientists happily told us - statistics show that if the first half of the hypothesis is true, women do find some balance between body and spirit in the focus of jealousy; However, the second half of the hypothesis is not true. Men, even if they are old, are still unbearable to cheat on women's bodies.
What is the reason? So far, science has not been able to give a complete explanation. Maybe there are differences in the jealousy mechanism between the sexes. Obviously, this is a topic worth a lot of money to do, so scientists are very happy.
