Post Date December, 03 2023
In a chat with a friend, she asked her criteria for choosing a mate, and she replied: "I will marry a man who is as good as my father in the future, care for me and love my children all my life; I don't ask him how rich and handsome he is, as long as he can understand my vulnerability and always put family responsibilities at heart." She was right, a girl who lives in such a happy family like her, If a man treats her less than her father, why should he? Do you find abuse yourself?
My friend's father is a middle-aged man who has achieved a little in his career. He is generous and sincere to others. In the current popular phrase, he is a warm man, and has no bad habits. He has never had a big quarrel or fight with his friend's mother, nor has he ever hit her because of her naughty child. Although the mother of a friend is no longer young, she dresses very carefully, and is more energetic than many of her peers. Her skin is brighter, and her eyes are softer. It can be seen that her face is filled with happiness rather than the etching of life.
Maybe every woman has a set of her own criteria in her heart. Taking the criteria of her friend's mate selection as a guide, she can get many different opinions. However, the more mature a woman is, the more she knows that some men are only suitable for dating him, while some men are suitable for marrying him. What kind of man is suitable for marriage?
Honest man. A man's honesty will make you feel secure. There will be no crisis of trust between you two, and you can share your little secret frankly. He never lies to you unless he is afraid that the truth will hurt you; He never brags and gets along with you with his true self, which is an honest performance. However, if you continue to develop with a dishonest man for a long time, you will suffer.
After marriage, many women find that their husbands are more frank and hide things from her. For example, they hide the reasons why they don't go home and start to hide their private money. They seldom tell their wives what they think. Originally, they should be material and spiritual partners, but now they have different dreams. The estrangement between women and their husbands is getting deeper and deeper. They are often worried, and family life becomes very difficult.
A man with a happy family and good family education. In most cases, the shaping of a person's personality is closely related to the family environment in which he grows up. A child who grew up in a happy family has been influenced from childhood. Their parents' friendly way of getting along has left a mark on them. Their sound personality makes them very smooth with others.
They who never lack love have more ability to love themselves and others, so such men are very ideal as marriage objects. Good family education endows them with a positive and correct view of marriage, and their moral cultivation will be more restrictive to them. For example, in many cases of extramarital affairs, the probability of such a man cheating is very small. Even if he disregards your feelings, is forced by the strictness of family education, and under the pressure of his parents (your parents-in-law), he will also surrender.
A man with strong self-control. A man can show strong self-control in the face of various temptations, which will have great advantages after marriage. A man with strong determination can be unmoved by the temptation of various "fox spirits" after marriage. He is only devoted to you in his life. Even though you are old and pale, in his eyes, other women can't match you. You are the legitimate wife. This will make you feel very proud and satisfied.
The man with weak self-control will glance at other beautiful girls everywhere when he falls in love with you, which is very dangerous for you and may be abandoned at any time. Moreover, such men are easy to catch all kinds of bad habits, such as smoking, drinking and gambling, which can torture a woman for a lifetime and make people shudder.
Optimistic men. Optimistic men are not blindly optimistic, but inject new energy into you when you are discouraged or frustrated. They are not depressed when you encounter problems in your life, work hard to solve them, and bring you a smile; It is to share with you and laugh at you with humor when you are in great distress.
Living with such a man will not be long in your life. You and your children will be infected by him and become optimistic.
A man who can deal with quarrels. After lovers get along for a long time and get familiar with each other, there will be some conflicts from time to time. The quarrels are unavoidable. No couple can not fight, but the quarrels are very challenging. If a man can properly handle the quarrel between you, he will not insist on fighting for right or wrong for the sake of anger and face, and take the overall situation into consideration rather than personal resentment, such a man is worthy of trust. Because after marriage, the two people have been together for a long time, and the number of quarrels will be many. His rational treatment will reduce your injury. Even if the quarrel is fierce, it will not break up the family.
