Post Date December, 03 2023
What a bolt from the blue! I'm at a loss. He said that children would not interfere in my life, which I think is impossible. The growth of a child needs a father. When the child is old and thoughtful, he will find, conflict and ask for.
Brighten your eyes before marriage and close them after marriage
Huali: He has been in the society for many years, but I have worked for less than 2 years. I have been dating him for five months. He loves me very much, and I love him too. I think he is a person who can be entrusted for life. We are looking forward to the future, and everything is going smoothly. But recently, he told me that something had been hidden from me. He said that he had married seven years ago, and then divorced. He also had a seven-year-old son who lived with his grandparents in his hometown in the north!
What a bolt from the blue! I'm at a loss. He said that children would not interfere in my life, which I think is impossible. The growth of a child needs a father. When the child is old and thoughtful, he will find, conflict, and keep demanding... he will make a lot of noise. I dare not think.
Doctor Ma: If you can't choose between reality and emotion, go to his hometown with him if you have time. In addition, you have only been dating for 5 months. Is it necessary to continue this relationship? Unless you love deeply and have the confidence to overcome all the difficulties in the future, but if you have questions in your heart, I advise you to give up as soon as possible. Because if you live with questions, your feelings will fall if there is a little change in the future!
Nurse Spicy: Are you sure what this man is after you? Don't say I'm realistic. Men are more realistic than we think. Don't let him ruin your dream until the end! Remember the joke - "shine your eyes before marriage, and close your eyes after marriage", because it is true that only when you shine your eyes before marriage, you can safely close your eyes after marriage.
It's better to confess than mend
Xiaoya: My father is a patient with compulsory spondylitis. Compulsory spondylitis is a genetic disease. Although I'm fine now, I can't predict whether it will happen.
Because of this, I feel passive and insecure emotionally. I'm afraid of getting sick, and I'm afraid it will be passed on to the next generation. In the past two years, I have made several blind dates, but no results have been achieved.
I became less and less confident and felt that I had nothing but a good job on the surface. It may be that I am afraid of being rejected at last, and sometimes I want to tell all my shortcomings, including bad health of my parents, to the people on the blind date first. I also want to make clear about this genetic disease before communicating with them, but who dares to approach me in this case?
Doctor Ma: I checked the information about "compulsory spondylitis", and I was a little relieved by the following paragraph: "The course of ankylosing spondylitis changes a lot. It has the characteristics of self-relieving or aggravating. Generally speaking, it is relatively light and can be self-relieving." If you have a boyfriend in the future, I think you should explain your genetic disease to your boyfriend, If possible, ask your doctor friend who is familiar with you to explain the situation of this disease to your boyfriend. When to talk about it depends on your understanding of him.
Nurse Spicy: From your account, the disease is not very serious. Why don't you take it as a common defect. Everyone has defects. At the same time, like everyone, you also have many advantages. As for whether or not to start with "ugly words", I think it would be more reasonable for the other party to understand your advantages first and then your disadvantages. But in short, they should be honest with each other. If they love you and value you, they won't care. On the contrary, even if you hide it first, what will he think of you in case of future disease? Will I still trust you?
Nobody likes to be led
Mr. Chelizi: When I was extremely depressed, she came into my life. Maybe it was just to find emotional sustenance. Slowly, I found that I was not suitable for her, but she got pregnant unexpectedly.
Out of a responsibility, I continued to associate with her for two or three years. If I don't like her at all, it's self-deception.
But because I couldn't accept her way of expressing love and didn't want to make a mistake, I chose to end this relationship last month.
Maybe things are a little sudden, so she can't accept it. But we are not the only ones who are unhappy in the end. The answer she gave me was that if she was not happy, she would not make me happy.
Doctor Ma: You have always considered your own interests emotionally. At the beginning, I casually found her because of my inner distress, but now I claim that it is not suitable, and I firmly want to break up. No one in the world likes to be led away. At the beginning, she only wanted to use the other person to heal quickly, but now she wants the other person to leave as soon as possible. Have you ever thought that she is also a person with dignity and thought?
Nurse Spicy: There are many feelings that are easy to say now. I don't know why it is so difficult for you to do it? In fact, your fault is not in breaking up, but in this relationship, you have been ashamed of her. I sincerely apologize to her for the trauma you gave her. Only with her understanding can you really start your new life with a clear conscience.
Helping the tyrant to become a tyrant will only bear its own consequences
Xia Jingjing: I'm going to collapse! My boyfriend loves me very much. I don't have to go to work now. I eat and sleep at home every day. Then I go online and use his words to enter. I can never do anything, just stay with him. However, if conditions permit, I can't chat with male netizens online. I can find friends to play, but I can't leave the city.
Now he always threatens me that I can't leave him. If I don't follow him in my life, he will kill me. If I betray him, he will kill me.
We once quarreled to the police station because of a quarrel, and he broke the door of my rental house because of a quarrel, and said he would kill me with a knife rest on my neck.
I hate him every time I quarrel, but every time I hear him say that everything he does is to be with me. When I see a big man crying in front of me, I will be soft hearted and forgive him. As a result, it always repeats itself.
Doctor Ma: It's terrible that a relationship has reached the level of smashing the door, stabbing the neck with a knife, and going to the police station. Why is that? In addition to the boyfriend's inability to take care of his emotions and certain personality defects, does his various aggressive behaviors also indicate that you do not love him enough, making him always full of insecurity?
Spicy nurse: Love a person should make the other person happy and happy. What you feel in this relationship is bondage and torture, and even make you collapse. Is this love? You are conniving at him, even the accomplice of his terrible mood. When he makes you really collapse, you will know that you can't escape the nightmare of love because you are helping the tyrant.
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