Psychological term: family cook
"Family cook" comes from the homonym "housewife", which generally refers to men who do housework at home (including cooking, washing, and taking care of children). The Chinese term "family cook" was put forward by the TV series "Marriage Defense War", in which the wives are all tough and the men go home to wash, cook and take care of the children. From "Marry a man to marry a wolf" to "Marry a man to marry Xu Xiaoning", the new good man has risen to a higher level.
Compared with housewives, men not only need to wash, cook and take care of children, but also to serve women well, massage their wives, tell children stories to coax children to sleep, and so on. In addition, we should take the initiative to share our worries for our wife when she has internal and external problems. In fact, from another point of view, men and women are equal in society. There is no such thing as high or low status. Since there will be housewives, there will be family cooks!
"Family cook" has become a trend
"Family cook" is a new term. It is not harmful to the dignity of men and shows the cowardice of men, but changes in the mode of family division of labor and the mode of human thinking as the times change.
As early as abroad, "family cook" is nothing new. Family division of labor depends entirely on family conditions and the allocation between husband and wife. It is understood that in the UK, 600000 men work as full-time "cooks" at home, 10 times as many as 10 years ago. In the United States, there are at least 1.7 million unemployed married men who rely on their wives to pay the bills of family life and work as "cooks" at home. In Sweden, "domestic husband" has been written into the law as a formal term. The law clearly stipulates that after the birth of the baby, both husband and wife have the right to choose who will stay at home to take care of the baby and who will continue to work. If the man decides to be the "domestic husband", the state will pay 80% of his original work remuneration in nearly one year. Such leave is often referred to as "maternity leave". They also have a special "father's leave" of 450 days, which must be taken before the child is 8 years old.
The traditional concept of our country advocates that "men dominate the outside and women dominate the inside". However, with the change of times, this pattern, which has lasted for thousands of years, is slowly changing, and "family cook" is becoming more and more recognized by men. A survey conducted in Beijing, Shanghai, Guangzhou and Shenzhen showed that 22%, 73%, 34% and 32% of male white-collar workers aged 28 to 32 were willing to be "cooks" when conditions permit.
At the same time, "cook husband" is gradually regarded by more and more women as one of the necessary conditions for a good husband. In the online survey conducted by Jiayuan, the largest serious marriage website in China, on the phenomenon of "family cook", 44% of women said they would like to marry family cook, and 85% of women expected their other half to "get out of the hall and into the kitchen".
Counting the N benefits of "cook"
Family cooks are popular, and the traditional concept of men taking charge of the outside world and women taking charge of the inside world is broken. What kind of new life will women have?
1. Housework can be basically hands-free.
Laundry, cooking, cleaning the house, taking care of the children and massaging the opposite sex of the daughter-in-law... This is Xu Xiaoning's daily work in the TV series. For the wives of the cooks, what they basically enjoy is the leisurely day when clothes are stretched out and food is opened.
2. Everything is centered on the wife, and the probability of having an affair is basically zero.
The cook's daily life circle is home and kindergarten, and occasionally chat with the neighborhood, basically cutting off the opportunity to contact the outside heterosexual, so the wife can naturally rest assured.
3. There is someone to accompany every day.
Don't worry about your husband's busy career. If she comes back later than herself every day, the hostess will not be lonely.
4. More self-reliance and self-confidence.
Don't worry about housework. Women have time and energy to do what they like.