I have a bunch of twins and a husband who loves me. In the first three years of marriage, there was no dispute between my husband and me. We didn't care about the occasional brush fire. After the baby was born, my husband and I were completely disturbed by the law of life. The original annual travel plan was almost canceled. My husband often complains that I have children in my eyes and I am helpless. My mother-in-law hasn't retired yet, so she can't help me much. I have two children full-time. Little fart children of the same age are very busy. That kind of busyness is unbearable.
The child is more than two years old. It is the time to babble, and the retirement age of mother-in-law is also coming. She is helping me with my baby now. I have enough time to live with my husband. Some time ago, an ambiguous text message made me lose my sense. I found this message on my husband's mobile phone, and we had a dispute. He said a lot of excessive things. What I only have children in my eyes? He was depressed in his heart. There was no one who said what he meant, and he also threatened me to pay less attention to his affairs.
After we quarreled, I was angry and ran to my mother's house to complain. My mother's family found my husband and gave him a hard talk. My husband was not convinced, but he didn't want to make things worse. He apologized to me and said he would never divorce. I didn't accept his apology. I gave birth to a couple of children for him and brought them up hard. He ran outside to steal the sunshine. The more I thought about it, the more I felt aggrieved. I went to the third party's quarters and units to make a noise, which was known to everyone, and made them lose face, so I was relieved a little.
I thought I had made so much noise that they had given up the affair. I don't trust him, and secretly unlock his QQ password to enter the chat page. I found that they were still in contact. The third party scolded me as a crazy woman, and let him divorce me as soon as possible. My husband also said that he hated me, hated me and humiliated him, but could not bear to part with his twin children.
I want to know that since he hates me so much, it means that he has no feelings to speak of, but why he still forced himself to be with me. Shouldn't he be tired with such a marriage shell? I am very inferiority complex now. What should I do? I have lost my fighting spirit completely and don't want to continue. I am very tired.
Reply from the consultant:
Home is a haven for people. When a man gets lost in this harbor, he will do deviant things. You mean that after the birth of a baby, he has no time to play with his husband. There is much less interaction between your relatives, and they are naturally strange to each other. When you think you have enough time to accompany him, his heart is no longer with you. He hates you because you make him lose face and hate your behavior.
You feel like you are living together. It is meaningless to keep an empty shell in your marriage. If he doesn't even enter this family one day, your marriage is really in the name of death. When we first got married, the marriage was in the fresh-keeping period, and it can be fresh and long without too much maintenance. After this fresh-keeping period, it will become stale, so we need to protect it. If we neglect the wrong thing of protection, it will decay.
If you still want to keep your marriage, it is suggested that you should pay more attention to it, and use a woman's unique aura to keep him, not in a noisy way. The more you make a noise, the more he thinks you are terrible. When the third party approaches, find a suitable opportunity to hit her hard and make her dare not approach. In addition, communicate with your husband, understand his needs, and see how he feels about your marriage. You should make a right choice between you and wish you happiness.