There is a popular saying nowadays: wife is better than others! Why?
Absence makes the heart grow fonder
After being married, a man gets along with his wife day and night, and lives together in a circle. After a long time, the novelty will gradually disappear. His wife's speech and behavior can be seen at a glance, so he is somewhat disapproval. Looking at other women is just like looking at his wife at the beginning, full of curiosity and novelty. The reason why it is fresh is that there is some distance, like looking at flowers in a fog, hazy, like clear and not clear. What men catch is only superficial phenomena, but can't see the substance. This haziness can produce a kind of beauty. As the saying goes, a farewell is better than a new marriage. The same is true.
The angle of appreciation is different
A husband admires his wife from a completely different perspective than other women. A man looks at his wife from his husband's perspective. He always wants his wife to be perfect and better than others. He should "get out of the hall and get out of the kitchen". While men see other women mostly from the perspective of friends, colleagues and classmates. Be courteous and friendly in communication and show gentlemanly demeanor everywhere.
From this point of view, other women are of course extremely cute. They are gentle, considerate and beautiful. I feel that my wife lacks grace. In a word, this kind of "perfectionism" often compares the advantages of a person with that of his wife, so he feels that his wife is not satisfactory.
After a long time, the couple will have the mentality of "living in the orchid room for a long time without smelling its fragrance", which is a factor of psychological saturation. Accustomed to the virtues of his wife. For example, Braised pork belly is delicious, but if you eat it every day, I believe you will get tired of it, and you will even lose your appetite in the end. This psychological feeling makes it difficult for you to feel the beauty of Xi Shi even if you are with her every day.
Every couple is married because of love. Before marriage, you must feel that your wife is the most lovely person in the world, better than anyone else, so you will mobilize all your wisdom to pursue. It's just a psychological illusion to think that a wife is inferior to a person after marriage. To be fair, it is the wife who shares weal and woe, it is the wife who shares weal and woe, it is the wife who accompanies life and death, and it is still your wife when you are most in need of help.