Post Date December, 03 2023
Can sex be the last boundary and norm between men and women, and use it to distinguish distance and closeness?
I don't want to spend too much time playing love games, but I hope to have a fixed emotional life. Fortunately, women who put in all their effort in their favorite work may be considered a couple to their previous mothers who held hands and walked together on the road. Men must envy women for being responsible for such a relationship.
Because nowadays, the relationship between men and women is not only about holding hands, kissing, and embracing, but it doesn't mean anything. Even going to bed doesn't mean anything.
If you think you have been with a man, slept in bed, often met, and even had business dealings, it means you have a "relationship" or "a fixed relationship". So, you're completely wrong.
Because for many men, even if they often sleep with you, it does not mean that you are their "girlfriend". You can have any demands on them or they have any "responsibilities" towards you.
Note that the term 'responsibility' here is specifically quoted, meaning it represents a special meaning and does not mean that if he sleeps with you, he will have to marry you, live with you, and take care of you; But it just means that he cannot completely do whatever he wants without any worries, treating you as if you don't exist.
But I'm sorry, even such a request would be considered too unreasonable.
That is to say, one day, when you are at the house of a man you have slept with, you find the sanitary pads used by women and the clothes left by women. Just because you have slept with him, you can't ask him who left these. You have no right to ask him why he can have another lover after sleeping with you, because the answer you get is likely self deprecating: whoever says I can't have another personal life after sleeping with you.
Does this relationship sound creepy? For me, it is indeed. A vow of loyalty can betray, but it's not a big deal, because once said, it doesn't count. The marriage certificate in black and white can also not count, because it can divorce.
These can all be easily changed, so what is sleeping? I admit to being an antique, but I am absolutely willing to believe that the meaning of sex to people is not just the physical contact between two people. No matter what kind of one night stand, it will leave traces in our lives and consciousness.
Shaking hands and having a meal together, I think, is still different.
Sex represents a kind of contact, an intimate relationship between two people. I think sex should be a boundary for people to get along with, and it is basically worth following to use sex as a way to divide distance and closeness.
Even if people live in the world, there are some basic rules to follow, regardless of whether these rules are restrictions or unnecessary taboos. In short, without these basic norms, the operation of this society will be quite difficult.
Can sex be the last boundary between men and women, the last norm that distinguishes distance and closeness? I know some people may disagree with this statement and believe that sex is not a major matter such as killing or setting fire, and should not be regarded as a norm or restricted.
I agree that everyone can freely choose the boundaries between men and women, what is the act of crossing the boundary, and what is the safe distance. I also respect some people who believe that sex is not the boundary between men and women?? Why take sex so seriously? Someone will definitely say so.
But for these people, I personally have a small requirement, which is to clarify the rules of the game first. When you (you) want to sleep with another person, you must make them clear: "Having sex doesn't mean anything." Speaking clearly beforehand may avoid conflicts between each other due to different understandings in the future. Only by defining clearly in advance can those who wish take the bait, and those who do not want to leave quickly.
But can things really be explained so clearly? I'm afraid not necessarily. If there is a feeling of intimacy in a sexual relationship, even if it's not about love to death, can we still continue to say 'what does love mean?' Personally, I hold a reserved attitude.
So, in this era of no rules and unfounded relationships between men and women, my attitude towards them is actually very simple.
In order to avoid misunderstandings due to different "definitions" of sex, I would basically find a man who believes that sex is a further indicator of the development of their relationship, and then have this intimate relationship with him. How is your coping style?
