Post Date December, 03 2023
What am I going to do? I am a woman who has been married for 8 years. My husband and I are not in free love because I got married in a fit of temper. He loves me very much, but I don't love him very much. The year before last, I met the one I love. He is 3 years younger than me. After a short time together, he changed his mind. The most annoying thing is that he chose someone else. Later, he said he wanted to be my closest friend. I gnash my teeth with hate. He sent me messages again and again. I feel better every time. When he sent a message, it was like being stabbed. I told him clearly. I respected his choice. Why did he bother me? I really
Ms. Mei:
Marry a husband who doesn't have much love. Such marriage always makes you eager to find compensation from outside the marriage. The appearance of another one will realize your inner desire. But the other party's failure broke your good wishes. You said that you respect his choice. It can be seen that you are also a rational person. However, the other party keeps sending text messages, which makes you feel that you can't cut them.
There are two reasons why he harasses you. First, when he and you were married, you were a married woman. Since he can accept your husband's existence, why can't you accept that he has someone else? Second, your attitude is not firm enough. At least in his view, there is still a chance to be with you.
The reason why you are so painful is that your good will is broken, and you still expect to be reconciled with him subconsciously. However, the reality makes you unacceptable, and there are also worries and fears about the future, so you can't stop.
You said that your husband loves you very much. From your statement, you can judge that you don't want to destroy your marriage, but just want to find a sustenance for your inner feelings. In fact, he can't bear your heavy feelings at all. Your feelings can't fall to the ground and blossom. They will always be a castle in the air. You know that. So, why not put your energy on your husband who loves you very much and must pay a lot for you. Since we are connected with him, why not try to fall in love with him and give him your heavy feelings, he is the person worthy of your trust. After understanding this, you should first categorically refuse all dealings with another man, try to find out the loveliness of your husband from life, and manage your marriage well. Your happiness is secure, and the rest is just a castle in the air.
