Post Date December, 03 2023
A psychologist once said: "Nowadays, many men are impulsive, not because of how impatient their temper is, but because of lack of confidence." Others said that men lack confidence and are prone to impulsive emotions. This impulse is actually their wrong self-protection. For the above point of view, the reporter is curious. Is the impulse of men really related to self-confidence?
Li Ling, deputy director of Beijing Huiyuan Psychological Consultation Center, told the reporter the reason, "From a psychological point of view, if a man does not agree with his value, he will feel that he is looked down upon by others and threatened. This psychological state is manifested by cowardice and withdrawal. Especially when encountering accidental emergencies, it is more likely to trigger out-of-control emotions, such as impatience and anger."
For impulsive men, Li Ling suggests that the following points can be adopted to help them relieve their impulsive emotions.
First of all, if something happens suddenly and makes your mood become irritable and angry, it's better to cool down your mood before you express it, for example, say to yourself in your heart: "I will be angry in three minutes." Then count in your heart. Don't underestimate these three minutes. They can help you recover your sanity to a great extent.
Secondly, when you find that your mood is about to get out of control, quickly change an environment, and your attention and energy will also shift accordingly. Don't let yourself fall into a dead end. Always think about people or things that make you angry, so you will be more angry. In addition, when you feel that your emotions can't be controlled, you can take the initiative to do some exercise to let the impulsive emotions flow away with sweat.
Finally, it is often said that we should speak out and communicate with our friends. Especially when you are not angry, talk with people who are often angry with you, listen to each other's things that are most likely to get angry, and imagine some ways to communicate feelings.
Li Ling told everyone that confidence needs to be built by oneself. Only with confidence can we have a good attitude to face life. The impulse brought by lack of confidence cannot solve the fundamental problem. When expressing our emotions, we should also understand the correct self-regulation. We must not let the impulse make things we regret.
