Post Date December, 03 2023
Q&A
Living apart from each other, why does he always seek a one-night stand
Q: My boyfriend and I had to live apart due to work reasons. "We have a 6 year relationship and get along very well, but he just can't stand being lonely and often has one night stands with others.". He said he didn't want to do this either, but sometimes he does have the need to vent physically and emotionally. You say, what should we do?
A: We should recognize that people have basic needs, including sexual needs, which are objective things. Avoidance and forced repression are clearly not wise solutions. However, in the face of loneliness, there is not only one way to solve it. Playing ball games with friends, attending some useful courses, and so on, are all good ways to solve loneliness. Have you ever discussed this issue with your boyfriend?
One of the reasons why a person feels empty and lonely is that he has spare time and energy. If he is busy all day long and doesn't even have enough time to sleep, do you think he still has a chance to be lonely and empty? You have a relationship of 6 years and get along very well. I believe that you both hope to eventually stay together for life and end the separation between the two places. If so, have you not thought about how to achieve this wish?
Due to work reasons, living apart from each other is likely to be due to the fact that everyone's job position, salary, etc. are relatively ideal. In this case, a better and more widely chosen method is for one person to add value to himself (such as a postgraduate or doctoral candidate), so as to achieve the goal of moving to another city and still be able to find a job with the same salary as the original position. If your partner has this pressure and motivation, does he still have time to have a one night stand with someone else?
Of course, if after repeated coordination, he still feels that only by choosing the current approach can he be cathartic, then you need to consider another issue. Even if you live with him in the future, you cannot be stuck with him 24 hours a day. Once encountering temporary separation, if he still adopts this way to solve loneliness, can you accept and tolerate it? By thinking clearly about this issue, you can naturally make your own choices.
Q&A
Breast development at the age of 9, is it considered precocious puberty
Q: My daughter has just turned 9 years old, and recently her breasts have become somewhat swollen and show signs of development. It is said that most girls will have menstrual cramps six months after their breasts develop. I'm worried. Is this considered precocious?
A: It is generally believed that girls who exhibit signs of sexual development (characterized by the earliest breast development) before the age of 8, or who have menarche before the age of 10, can be diagnosed with precocious puberty. Early puberty can be diagnosed when girls develop before the age of 10 and predict lower adult height.
However, whether it is sexual precocity or early puberty, there are both true and false. As for the time when menarche occurs, it is not necessarily about half a year after breast development.
It is recommended that you take your child to the Children's Endocrinology Department of a regular hospital for medical treatment, and improve gynecological B-ultrasound, endocrine, and bone age tests to determine whether the child is really starting to develop.
