Post Date December, 02 2023
Life is not about working hard and getting everything!
Perhaps you, like me, once foolishly believed that as long as you persevere, you will win, and as long as you work hard, you can do anything. Perhaps, you think so now. However, looking back on the scenes, even if we persist, we cannot escape the pain of failure, and how hard we strive, we all suffer from lovesickness. So, I calmed down, recalled, pondered, and suddenly discovered a secret: Life is not just about trying hard to get everything!
When I was a child, I especially liked to read the stories in "The Classic of Mountains and Seas". At that time, I was just curious about why Kua Fu had been chasing the sun, and why a bird in Jingwei had always been throwing branches and stones into the sea with it in its hand? But adults always tell me that Kuafu wanted to catch up with the sun, so he kept running. He was thirsty and drank the Yellow River and Wei River dry, but finally he died of thirst in Daze. Although Jingwei is small, it casts stones year after year to fill the sea. They are all trying to do their own things, which is a spirit, so you must remember to work hard in everything.
Over the years, I still remember this, but now I suddenly realize that no matter how powerful and hard Kuafu is, how can he possibly catch up with the sun; No matter how hard Jingwei tries, it will not fill the sea for ten thousand years. "Because what they do already has consequences, for them it is just an act of self-deception. There are many things in this world that can not be achieved as long as you work hard!"!
1、 There are too many departures in life
We often say that tea is cool when people walk away. The person left, but tea is still tea, and tea is still there. The same is true of life. Each of us experiences meeting someone, establishing relationships, understanding each other, and becoming friends. Then one day, he said to you that he was leaving here and wanted to go and have a look in the distance. Do you want to keep him or give him away? No matter how reluctant or unwilling you are in your heart, leading to a bit of separation anxiety, your efforts will appear weak in the face of leaving and parting. He left, but life continued. This feeling has been felt since I was a student. Every graduation is a separation.
But separation is not necessarily a farewell, perhaps, for the joy of the next reunion.
2、 A background without choice
No matter who makes any effort, no matter who has no choice of origin, it cannot be changed. "Because we cannot choose our birth, our parents, or the historical period, country, or environment in which we were born.".
I have heard a true story before about a boy who came out of a poor mountain village and later married a girl in the city. With his efforts, his social status and work have all changed. However, his wife sometimes talks about his origin, which makes him very sad. Suddenly, one day, a woman in shabby clothes and with a bent back knocked on their door. The couple opened the door and looked at it. The woman looked contemptuously, while the man showed a helpless and uncomfortable expression. "This woman is the man's mother, but he tried to keep calm in front of his wife in the city and said, 'This is my aunt next door to my hometown, stop by to see me!' After hearing this, the old woman silently left with tears in her eyes, and shortly after returning, she committed suicide.".
Birth, this special mark, no one can change. You can strive to change your life, change your social status, and change your future, but no matter what efforts you make to your family background, it won't help. Instead of this, it's better not to mind this, but to accept and accommodate it.
3、 Hopelessly fond
There is a song in which "Acacia is also a disease" is sung. Some people compare love to a poison with a sweet taste, causing people to be poisoned and then incurable. Friends in life always tell me, I don't know why I just like her? But I don't want to like her. I tried everything I could to forget her, but I couldn't. Someone else said to me, why am I so kind to him and I can't get his love? I gave him all my youth, why can't I get true love? Why is love so hard and painful?
"I always listen quietly and carefully, and then tell them that there are some things that can not be achieved as long as you work hard, and that if you work hard to be good to him, he will be good to you. True love is not something you work hard to achieve alone.".
In the turbulent world of love, there is no emphasis on equal returns. Perhaps you have worked hard to give everything, but in the end you have nothing!
4、 Elapsed Time
Life is like a fleeting moment in the world, and time is like running water. There are many people in life now, specifically many young people. They squander their youth and time every day, believing in the principle of "having wine today and getting drunk today" and enjoying themselves in a timely manner. Therefore, they overdraw their youth, body, and capital. They also know that time passes quickly, and that's why they think they need to work hard to enjoy each day. On the surface, this seems quite reasonable. However, when looking at those middle-aged and above people, they are all busy like ants. Why are they so busy? They said that when they were young, they didn't understand, so they patronized and played. I haven't learned any skills, so I'm trying to make up for what I should have learned before.
But can I really make it up? "A day can pass if you enjoy it hard, and a day can pass if you study hard.". There is no difference between the two, but the time that elapses is the same and cannot be made up for.
5、 Inevitable death
Death is like the darkness of a dark night. The endless darkness engulfed everything. Some people say that life is like a train heading for death. If you don't know when to reach the destination, you may never reach it.
Everyone is afraid of death, and death is inevitable for everyone. From ancient times to the present, it is unknown how many extraordinary people and scholars have devoted their entire lives to the pursuit of immortality, but no amount of effort can overcome the laws of nature and escape the sickle of death.
Whether you are poor or rich, civilians or nobles, facing death is equal, and anyone's efforts appear so pale in front of the god of death. Life is a process, and death is an inevitable result. Since that's the case, it's better to focus on striving to live brilliantly.
In life, it's not just you, it's not just me, everyone is the same. In front of many things that we won't change no matter how hard we try, we seem so powerless and vulnerable.
Therefore, knowing that leaving is inevitable, there is no need to detain. Send blessings; Know that birth cannot be changed, don't hide it, let it become a mark; Knowing that emotions cannot be deliberately imposed, let's go with it; Knowing that time cannot stay, let every quarter of an hour contain value; Knowing that death will occur at some point in the future, cherish the present!
In life, we can not achieve anything as long as we work hard. We just need to relax our hearts, calm our emotions, and calm our mood. Follow the trajectory of things and do what you want, without having to make a fruitless effort!
