Post Date December, 02 2023
Due to work reasons, my wife and I separated after we got married. My wife and my mother live together, but I originally thought that this way my wife would converge. "Who knows, every time my wife goes out at night to hang out with netizens, she lies to my mother and says she's looking for her best friend, and this has happened at least a dozen times.". My mother is an understanding person, and she has had several fights with her for this reason, so she strongly encouraged me to divorce her. Although I also have some complaints about my wife's cheating behavior, I am deeply afraid that the child will be most hurt after divorce, after all, the child has just entered kindergarten. Should I ever get a divorce?
Re:
First of all, you need to understand why your wife is cheating. Is it because one is lonely at home? Or is it because of your indifference in retaliation? From her wife's frequent online conversations, it can be seen that she cannot withstand loneliness alone. In addition to the sweet words of malicious netizens, it is not surprising that her wife has degenerated into making an affair. However, although every time my wife goes out and opens a room with netizens, she always lies, which also shows that she still cares about the family and your feelings.
Secondly, you need to figure out the pros and cons of divorce. "If the wife is just temporarily overwhelmed and seduced, for the sake of a 3-year-old child and a hard-won marriage, try not to choose divorce.". The best way is to speak out to each other's hearts face to face, and to stand in the other's position for empathy. If your wife has been obsessed and doesn't put marriage and children in the eye at all, then choose divorce decisively for a long time. After all, a woman who abandons her moral principles and legal obligations is not worthy of being a woman and mother.
Finally, you need to think clearly about your life after a divorce. Marriage is a piece of paper, and divorce is also a piece of paper, but the content on the paper is different. After a divorce, the child may be sentenced to you, which will result in fewer mothers for the child. Only moms are good in the world, and children without moms are like grass. Therefore, you should consider all the difficulties after divorce as thoroughly as possible to see if you can cope with them. If you feel overwhelmed, it is recommended to communicate with your wife again, strive to return to your hometown and work, and try to do as much as possible as a husband should.
(Intern editor: Lai Jiaxing)
