Post Date December, 03 2023
I want to talk about the relationship between my wife and me. I hope you can make it public that our marriage at the end of 2013 was a flash marriage. Then in 2015, I discovered that she had an affair, and now I am in great pain. I love her very much. She said she wanted me to give her time to solve it. I gave her a year, but it has already passed. Later, he said that the time may be longer, but he will come back to me and treat me better in the future.
She used to lie to me all the time, and she didn't communicate with me either. Just saying it made her angry! We are currently in a cold war, and I have deleted her contact information. I can't figure out why? Should I give up or continue waiting for her? I am very entangled! I hope you can help me!
reply:
Flash marriage carries risks and may even be unreliable. You wouldn't have missed this point before marriage.
Although you love her very much, she doesn't love you that much, even playing with you, that's the reality right now. After her infidelity, not only did she not stop in a timely manner, but she repeatedly demanded that you continue to give her time to solve it. This is nothing more than delaying and playing tricks on you, with the purpose of using you as a backup, invisibly making you the victim of her reckless entry into the marriage. She is examining whether her infidelity partner can entrust her for life, or perhaps comparing and weighing with you before deciding whether or choose to return, Or kick your heart hard.
Why are you still lingering on and reluctant to part with someone who knows they have repeatedly deceived you, humiliated you, and disrespected you? Although emotions can sometimes be the product of being cheap, the prerequisite for being willing to be cheap is at least that the other person is worth it. Otherwise, it becomes a fool on the road of pursuing love.
You should know that love is not used to make use of or negotiate conditions. Love is used to exchange sincerity and sincere emotions with each other. Conversely, it desecrates love and wastes time. So, in order to make love less hurt and worth it, it's better to give yourself some principles and bottom line. Don't put yourself in infinite passivity and infinite compromise, give love some dignity.
The key point is that the reason and premise for not giving up and continuing to wait is that the person you love must also love you.
Interactive questioning:
I can't help but delete her now, but I can't help but add her. He said he loves me and can't deceive others, and he also said he doesn't know how to express himself!
He had an affair with a man around 37, who had a family and two children. The man's wife also knew about it, but after a while, she left and said she wouldn't divorce me. She just didn't want to hurt him. She seemed to have taken me for granted, as if she knew I couldn't do without him! Brother Shan, please help me with my moves.
reply:
To be honest, I don't have much to offer you. It's still you who can save you in the end, and you need to fight for it yourself. Your wife has indeed taken you for granted, because you are really not strong enough. Now it seems that your wife cannot marry that man, but she cannot let go of that man, at least she loves him more than you do. Her various excuses are to maintain a bond with that man. If you don't show your manly spirit and show her your attitude and bottom line, she will continue to trample on you and eat you!
