Post Date December, 02 2023
Do you think true love comes from hard pursuit or from nature? When we are young, we often feel that what is hard to catch seems to be precious, so girls should pretend to be hard to catch, and boys should fight hard to catch. The process of chasing is best to be melodious, full of surprises, and even passers-by are touched. It may take a long time to catch it. We think that it must be true love to chase with such heart!
So, before falling in love, some people will take it as proof that the other party likes you enough. Some girls feel that they will be caught soon and seem to have no value? Mistakenly think that the other party will not cherish it if they catch up too soon? If the girl takes the initiative, will she be too casual? How could he cherish it if he didn't let the other party chase it harder? So, chasing seems to have another meaning, which is not enough for love.
However, now I observe, but I think that this is probably because I watch too many idol dramas and romantic novels. In fact, many happy partners and marriages around us do not come from the pursuit of each other. On the contrary, most of them are naturally together, especially the older they are, the more they understand what they want and don't want. If they really meet the right person, they can quickly decide the major events of life.
In fact, it is troublesome to be chased. If you are chased by someone you don't like enough, it is troublesome to find a way to refuse. You are also afraid of hurting the other party's self-esteem, and you can't even make friends. So, I think if you like each other, don't spend time chasing each other. If you don't like each other, don't waste each other's time. Even if you are lonely occasionally, it is better to enjoy loneliness than to spend time with someone you don't like.
I have heard that some people will use difficult ways to test the other party and make the other party tired to prove whether he loves you enough. For example, if you are deliberately late for an hour when you make an appointment, you need him to pick you up and send you away from a long distance, and you also have to give the test questions to the other party all the time. Every time I see it, I think, why should you torture and mistreat him when you clearly don't like him?
We will also know some goddesses who are always surrounded by pursuers. They always have several suitors at hand, and they will also create their own image that is hard to catch up with. Even if they have a boyfriend, they will not make it public, so that others have the chance to pursue. Everyone has the opportunity, but everyone is not sure. It is a very advanced management science. In the past, we might envy such girls, but I later found that they are actually a waste of time.
Because when you spend too much time on objects that you don't like, you also lose time to find the right objects. In other words, if you always hold the wrong people in your hands and see which one is right, then you won't have time to meet the right person.
Because we know from the bottom of our hearts that what we want to pursue hard usually means that the other party doesn't like you at all, so you have to pursue it so hard. You may catch up with him because he has touched him and found you good. But what if one day he meets someone he likes from the bottom of his heart? What if you can do something to move him, but others can do it better than you?
In our life, we may also encounter several times of hard pursuit of each other, or the experience of being hard pursued. So we all understand that because we don't like each other enough, we let him chase so hard. If you really like it, how can you let him work so hard?
When you think about it, that kind of hard pursuit is actually an unequal and unequal relationship, and even a relationship is to maintain such an unequal relationship. Some people will think that they want to suppress the other party, control him, and control him, which is the expression of love. But in fact, a truly healthy relationship should be equal and equal.
Moreover, if the other party is always pursuing hard, they will also be bullied by you after intercourse. When you are satisfied, the other party may have a day. I have seen people who were originally bullied and bullied. Later, after dating, they secretly flirted with other girls with the goddess they had not easily chased. For him, this is a silent resistance and a source of self-confidence. Because you can't get confidence with the goddess. You can only get achievements if you steal with other girls. That's why you can see that some men have married beautiful wives, but the mistress is not as beautiful as his wife.
You've also heard a lot about it. After catching up with him, he changed a person together or after marriage because he didn't want to play again. Now that he has achieved his goal, he can be himself. And he will eat you instead.
There are also people who feel that they have paid a lot because of their hard pursuit, but can't get love in the end, or lose love, and become a terrorist lover, trying to hurt you and destroy you. There are many social news cases.
In fact, pursuing is not a bad thing. There will always be pursuit in the relationship between men and women, and the process of pursuit can also be very romantic and touching, of course, very good. But what I'm talking about is that if one party doesn't like the other party, the other half is still struggling to pursue. Of course, love may be based not only on heart, but also on emotion. Love has many possibilities.
However, if you really don't like each other enough, or you know that the other person doesn't like you enough. So, such hard pursuit will not be good for each other. Forcible fruit is not sweet. Forcible fruit is not really yours.
A good love should be based on an equal relationship, not on which side of the balance. Only you love him, only you pay, only he treats you well, only he has to endure you, only you sacrifice, only he is wronged... This is impossible to be happy for a long time.
Don't love a person you want to pursue, and don't let a person you don't love pursue you. Any kind is pain.
Perhaps when you reach an age, you will understand that pursuit is not so important.
It is still not as exciting or moving as real action.
If you really like a person, don't make him difficult or difficult. Whether true love is not proved by how hard you pursue. isn't it?
If you really love a person, you should not always prove that you are better than him or beat him. If you love him, you should pay more attention to his feelings. You want the people you love to be happy, and the people you love also want you to be happy. Happiness is the basis of love. If the love you want is built on pain, dear, it is really not love!
