If you always feel anxious in a relationship, you are used to expressing your desire to be pacified with anger and silence; It's not a pity to lose yourself in love. Every one of you is humble and flattering, just to be treated well in this relationship; May someone see through your vulnerability and anxiety, give you a hug when you need love, and let you know that you still deserve to be loved.
For the anxious attachment like you, Shepell-fgi, the author of Workhealthlife, gave you three exercises. We will be afraid of losing, but the courage to admit vulnerability is also evidence of serious love:
It's you, so I'm willing to disarm: admitting vulnerability is also a kind of love
You protect your too soft heart with sharp spikes. The anxiety about love chokes in your throat and turns into silent crying, but you always have to turn around and wipe away the tears; You are afraid of your care, which gives you heavy pressure, which makes your lover gasp for breath, and will leave you quietly one day. So hold it, and hold it until you feel bitter, so use a cup of bitter liquor to suppress it; You are afraid to admit your weakness and fear, cover your naked heart, and fear that your lover will leave one day. Don't lose too thoroughly.
This is an exercise topic for anxious attachment. You know that admitting your vulnerability is also a kind of love. If you hold your heart, you are not afraid of losing or winning in love. You are willing to withdraw your strength for him and give the most real yourself. You have a need for the security and company of the relationship. You are afraid of loneliness, but you are also afraid of love. This love may not be perfect, but it is 100% true.
Expose my true feelings to my lover: I love you too much, so I am nervous
If you love someone in fear, every move in the relationship can make you doubt the sincerity of this love. You always lack confidence in love and beg for love from everyone you meet. "Do you love me?" Be careful when you say this, for fear of hearing the decisive negation. It is more like asking yourself: Am I really worth being loved? Such an ordinary person is worth loving?
This is an exercise for anxious adherents. Try to reveal your true feelings to your lover. Because you care too much, you love nervously and paranoid. These anxieties bother you. Every quarrel and separation makes you suffocate. You beg for love, but you just want to prove that you are worthy of being loved.
Love is difficult, but we never thought of giving up: love is willing to work hard for each other
When you care too much about a person, you always forget to restrain yourself. Unjustified jealousy drowns out your reason, but you always regret after quarreling. You love someone so much, but you always learn to express it gently; I made several phone calls when I wanted to be with you. The beep was as empty as your loneliness. You threw yourself into the universe of love, but no one caught you.
This is an exercise for anxious attachment. Although love is very difficult, you have never thought of giving up. Learn to tell your thoughts with your partner, communicate in a way that both of you are willing to accept, and try to reduce the way of sulking, pressing, and jealous communication. Remember that "love is the original intention of every communication. In order to continue to share life with you, work hard with each other.
In this life, we have been practicing how to love a person in love. In the process of love, we have learned how to love ourselves. Love is an endless adult process. We have begun to learn how it feels to love humbly, to explore why we are always upset, to recognize the fact that we love each other and kill each other, but never give up exploring the meaning of love to ourselves.